If you feel the need to look at your partner’s phone there is something wrong; either with your relationship, or with you. Under no circumstance is it appropriate for you to snoop in your lover’s phone. It’s a violation of …
When It’s Time to Go: Part 1
A checklist of essentials to take with you when escaping abuse Walking out the door and away from an abuser—or kicking an abusive partner out the door, if so inclined—is seldom as easy as it sounds. Abusers thrive on power …
Not Ready to Have a Baby?
If you’re not ready to have a baby yet it’s 100% your responsibility to protect yourself from unwanted pregnancy. Assuming that the girl is on the pill, or that she’ll have an abortion if she gets pregnant, are very dangerous …
Falling in love is exciting. When you think you’ve found “the one” its fun to fantasize about walking down the aisle together. Nonetheless, if you haven’t celebrated your twenty-fifth birthday yet you should not actually plan the wedding — or …
Work Out Together to Stay Together
Want to spend some quality time with your partner? How about working out together? It may not be something you would have thought of, but exercising together could actually prove to be the perfect fitness program for you both and …
Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t give you permission to be part of everything in their life. Time apart from each other is actually necessary to keep you both happy, and snooping is never helpful. So how appropriate are …
I’m not a fan of rules for relationships but texting is one of the worst ways to communicate with a lover. It’s lazy and vague. The true meaning is left up to the reader’s interpretation. As a relationship coach, I …
Can You Accept “No” or Do You Push to Get Your Way?
When someone tells you no can you hear that? Or do you push forward to do or get what you want anyway? Ignoring the answer when it’s not the one you wanted is a violation of boundaries. Trying to justify why you …
Your Emotional Wall Keeps You Alone
Being emotionally open in a relationship is very scary for people who are uncomfortable with feeling vulnerable. Putting up an emotional wall to hide behind feels safe. After all, it is much easier to get angry than to share what you’re truly feeling. But …
It’s a defense mechanism to reject someone you feel rejected by. But if you’re feeling rejected by the person you’re in a relationship with you need to resist that instinct and communicate how you’re feeling. You need to find out …
What is my ex doing without me this weekend? That’s one of the hardest parts of a breakup — but you can survive, and even be happy if you choose to not think about him/her at all! Don’t cyberstalk his/her …
Are you waiting for something to happen that is out of your control? Like for your ex to come back, to get married, or move forward? That’s being in limbo, and limbo sucks. Take your power back. Make a strong …
There is no guarantee to see each other again if you have sex on the first date. So if it’s going really well and you decide to have sex that first night, be really clear that you may be choosing …
If you’re feeling like you’re not good enough for the person you’re dating then he or she will ultimately decide that too. Because you are what you think you are. Your behavior, actions, and insecurities all reflect your thoughts and …
Being an open book is a sign of unhealthy boundaries. If you reveal deeply personal info about your past too soon you’re waving bright red flags to the person you’re trying to endear to you. There is a time and …