Thinking on your feet and responding immediately is not helpful to your relationship. I know many people are proud of having that ability to always have a quick comeback. I used to be one of them. But I now know …
Valentine Gift Ideas
Coming up with appropriate Valentine gift ideas can be stressful at every stage of a relationship. But the best and easiest gift to give is to be thoughtful. Everyone wants to feel loved, that’s the defining quality of a good …
It is very common when going through a breakup to have your ex threaten suicide. However, it’s usually just a desperate attempt to manipulate you to stay in the relationship. You should not give in to it. Handle your ex …
When your partner makes you angry is your first instinct to lash back and hurt him or her? S/he hurt you so turn around is fair play, right? No, that’s destroying your relationship. You need to react rationally, with integrity, …
Being single can be frustrating for many reasons. The annoyance of having to put up with everyone else’s opinion about your love life makes singledom even worse. This nosey concern is typically followed by well-meaning tips to help you find “your person.” …
Truly loving someone means you want the best for them. However, giving them everything they want is far from what’s best for anyone. It creates codependence. And makes you an enabler. When you’re given things instead of having to work …
After a breakup, it’s easy to have 20/20 vision about what you could have done differently to save the relationship. But how about while you’re still in the relationship? If your current partner is important to you then you need …
You Can Never Take Back Mean Words
Mean and nasty criticism of your partner, said out of anger, with an intention just to hurt will permanently damage your relationship, and very possibly end it for good. So if you’re not trying to break up then you need to choose your words …
After a breakup, most people don’t stop thinking about their ex until they fall in love with someone else. Therefore, when you first meet someone new you may still have feelings for your ex. That can really complicate things if …
Don’t Hold Your Feelings In When Your Partner Upsets You
If your partner does something that upsets you, you need to speak up about how you feel immediately — without yelling. Therein lies the problem for a lot of people. Don’t hold your feelings in when your partner upsets you. …
Have you been told, “Stop yelling at me,” when you didn’t feel like you were yelling? You may have even replied, “I’m not yelling, trust me, you’ll know when I am yelling.” However, what you need to hear is that …
Probably the easiest way to avoid hurting yourself more when you’re struggling through a painful breakup is to stop talking to your ex. Most definitely, don’t ask any questions that can spike your anxiety and make you feel worse if …
After a breakup I always ask my clients if they know what went wrong. Just about all of them can point to at least one thing that happened that foreshadowed their breakup, they just didn’t pay attention to it at …
Does Size Matter?
Many of my male clients have asked me, “Does size matter?” The truth (from a woman who speaks to a lot of women) is yes, size does matter to SOME women, and NO, it doesn’t matter to the majority of …
Breakups are really painful. Many of my clients who come to me looking for help to either get their ex back or get over the heartache have never reached out for any kind of help before. But they find themselves …