Don’t Hold Your Feelings In When Your Partner Upsets You

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If your partner does something that upsets you, you need to speak up about how you feel immediately — without yelling. Therein lies the problem for a lot of people. It’s hard to express what you feel in the moment …

If You Escape Your Relationship You’re Going To Lose It

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Do you avoid intimacy or spending time with your significant other? Do you need a lot of space? If so, you’re pushing him or her away. Comments from YouTube: bsmanning83 How timely, Donna! I left the relationship Friday because of just …

Not Ready to Have a Baby?

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If you’re not ready to have a baby yet it’s 100% your responsibility to protect yourself from unwanted pregnancy. Assuming that the girl is on the pill, or that she’ll have an abortion if she gets pregnant, are very dangerous …

Your Emotional Wall Keeps You Alone

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Being emotionally open in a relationship is very scary for people who are uncomfortable with feeling vulnerable. Putting up an emotional wall to hide behind feels safe. After all, it is much easier to get angry than to share what you’re truly feeling. But …

8 Signs Your Relationship is Too Hard

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Did you think you possibly found the love of your life but you’re not feeling happy? Are you frequently frustrated, confused, angry, or sad? Do you feel like you’re bending over backward and jumping through hoops to be there for your …

Taking Your Relationship For Granted Will End It

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Unfortunately, too many people don’t change their behavior until their partner has left them, and then it’s too late. If you value your relationship, show your partner his or her needs matter to you before you push them to their …

Do You Know When You’re Being Manipulative?

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Do you frequently try to get your way, even after you have been told you can’t? Is NO a hard word for you to accept? Are you aware that trying to change someone’s mind or behavior is being manipulative? Accepting …

The Question to Find Out How Good Your Relationship Is

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Are you happy? Are you getting your needs met? Do you feel understood and valued? It doesn’t matter how wonderful you think your partner is if he or she doesn’t make you feel loved. I was recently talking to a …

Attending a Wedding Together May End Your Relationship

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Going to a wedding with the love of your life can seem very romantic. But be careful, it just might ignite fear of commitment in your partner and ruin your relationship. If you’re in a great relationship and one or …

Are You Going Along to Get Along?

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Compromising is a great quality as long as you’re not the only one doing it. If you are the only one always giving in, or just going along to avoid an argument then it’s only a matter of time before …

When to Have “The Talk” About Commitment

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Having “the talk” about moving a relationship forward is never easy. Frequently it will end your relationship. So when is the best time to ask if you have a future together? If you have been together at least six months …

Two Things You Should NEVER Say to a Woman

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If you want your woman to calm down you need to be smart about how you go about asking. If you tell her to “calm down” or “relax” you’ll mostly like get the opposite reaction — it will infuriate her. …

Are You Giving Away Your Power?

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“He who loves least has the power.” Have you ever heard that expression? It refers to who controls the relationship. I googled that topic and as a relationship coach, I was sorry to see how many other bloggers think that …

How to Change Your Partner

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People don’t change unless they want to. Most people don’t want to. Change is hard. Yet many of us exert too much of our precious time and energy trying to change a lover who doesn’t want to change. Try focusing …

Excuse Me, But –

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Why healthy boundaries help both in & out of relationships If you went to purchase shoes that were labeled ON SALE but the salesperson rang them up at full price, what would you do? Most fashionistas wouldn’t hesitate to speak …