If your partner blames you for anything that doesn’t go right, no matter how small, she’s probably the defensive type who can’t take responsibility for her own actions. Blame is an easy to spot junk food flag (red flag) that …
How to Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships
To stop sabotaging your relationships you need to think before you act. The next time you’re feeling anxious or starting to panic because you haven’t heard from your man, or because he rejected you, yelled at you, or sent a …
Just because you have the ability to do something doesn’t mean you should do it. Just because you can send a message immediately doesn’t mean you deserve an immediate response. Electronic communication has changed relationships—and not for the better. For …
People do what they want to do. If you always remind yourself of that, it really is quite simple. As caring beings, we usually like to give people the benefit of the doubt. We frequently conjure up pleasant scenarios to …
What makes commitmentphobia so hard to recognize and even comprehend at first is that most people, both men and women, who say they’re looking for commitment or marriage are actually doing just that. Most of them want to be in …
How to Keep Love Alive
How to keep love alive? People need to feel desired and wanted. Simple acknowledgment goes a long way toward fostering love and keeping your partner happy. Once you’re in a healthy, committed relationship, share any loving thought that goes through your …
When to Return a Call or Text
Clients frequently ask me when to return a call or text. They want to know how long they should wait before responding to someone they’re interested in. The answer is, don’t wait. You should respond as soon as you want …
I believe a person’s happiness level dictates his or her degree of patience and compassion. Think about it. When you’re content and life is going well for you, aren’t you much more tolerant than when things aren’t going exactly as …
How to Stop Arguing
Couples come to me for coaching looking for an answer for how to stop arguing. They each tell me their side, and I check to make sure they’re both being heard. But sometimes the only solution is to agree to …
How to Be a Better Listener
One of the most frustrating things to come up against in a discussion or disagreement is someone who frequently interrupts. Isn’t it annoying when you can’t finish speaking your thoughts, let alone complete a full sentence? It’s called conversation hijacking. It …
Finding a happy relationship is not really about what you look like. Or what a man or woman thinks of you. It’s not about what he or she wants, or likes or does. It’s all about you! It’s about what …
Playing games is manipulative and a way to avoid intimacy. Playing games in a relationship doesn’t work. Games create competition, and a winner and loser. Playing games is manipulative and a way to avoid intimacy. Some people think game playing …
Are You Emotional Junk Food?
The difference between consuming actual junk food and indulging in emotional junk-food is that with food, at least you usually know what you’re consuming isn’t really good for you. Many people think they know, or at least have an idea of, …