Question: I have been dating this woman she has some stress from past debt, her job currently doesn’t cover her personal loans and credit card balance. How much of a concern should this be for us moving forward? ANSWER: First off, I’m …
My Partner Cheated On Me
I frequently get asked the question, “How do I handle staying with someone who cheated on me?” To make it work you have to be able to forgive completely. If you can’t then you have to get out. Forgiving completely means …
The Dating Diet
Bad relationships are pretty much the same as junk food. They usually start out with a hunger or craving for companionship, but if this healthy craving escalates into loneliness and neediness, such people tend to make bad choices. They might …
How to Fight Fairly to Help Your Relationship
Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? Ask yourself that the next time you find yourself digging in your heels in an argument. What are you really trying to get? Too many of us …
Are You Sure You Want to Send That Email?
Too many people send that email that kills all chances to make their relationship work. I think it would be great if there could be an app to check the emotional tone of emails before they’re sent, the same way …
How Fantasies and Expectations Sabotage Relationships
When you catch yourself getting all worked up and calling your friends to complain about something you think is going on with your man, stop! Ask yourself what the facts are. Only respond to what is actually going on, not …
Are Your Expectations Ruining Your Relationships?
I think the number one cause of heartache and disappointment in relationships is failed expectations. Expectations are built in several ways: by reading into your man’s behavior, by romanticizing a relationship to be more than it truly is, by wanting …
How to Recognize a Cheater
Perhaps the greatest cause of heartburn is the feeling of betrayal as you recognize a cheater. Trust is an essential ingredient of a healthy relationship, and once it’s lost or threatened, it’s extremely hard to get back. Unfortunately, cheating is …
How to Communicate Better
One of the biggest mistakes in love is expecting your partner to know you so well that he or she will instinctively recognize exactly what you want and need. Is your partner psychic? Does your partner have ESP? No! You shouldn’t presume that …
How to Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships
To stop sabotaging your relationships you need to think before you act. The next time you’re feeling anxious or starting to panic because you haven’t heard from your man, or because he rejected you, yelled at you, or sent a …
How to Keep Love Alive
How to keep love alive? People need to feel desired and wanted. Simple acknowledgment goes a long way toward fostering love and keeping your partner happy. Once you’re in a healthy, committed relationship, share any loving thought that goes through your …
How to Stop Arguing
Couples come to me for coaching looking for an answer for how to stop arguing. They each tell me their side, and I check to make sure they’re both being heard. But sometimes the only solution is to agree to …
Are You Emotional Junk Food?
Bad relationships are pretty much the same as junk food.The difference between consuming actual junk food and indulging in emotional junk-food is that with food, at least you usually know what you’re consuming isn’t really good for you. Many people …