Does Size Matter?

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Many of my male clients have asked me, “Does size matter?”

The truth (from a woman who speaks to a lot of women) is yes, size does matter to SOME women, and NO, it doesn’t matter to the majority of women; and there is nothing you can do about that. So stop worrying about it.

What matters most is chemistry. Having physical attraction and not being able to keep your hands off each other is what women want the most. Be attentive by asking her what she likes, take your time with foreplay (so that she’s turned on), and make sure she’s satisfied before you are. A well-endowed yet selfish guy who only cares about his own needs is a huge turn-off, sometimes even painful. In other words, it’s not as much about length or girth as it is about how you use it, how you treat her, and who you are.

Stressing about your size will not help you in any way, but it can hurt you. Self-esteem is created by how you feel about yourself. Your thoughts create your feelings. Therefore thinking you’re too small, or in any way not good enough is lowering your self-esteem. Since you can’t change your size you have to accept yourself for who you are. Be grateful for all the wonderful things about you. No humility is necessary in the things you say to yourself, so brag proudly. Stop focusing on anything you can’t change and change the things you can. Try not to compare yourself to anyone else, just be the best that you can be.

While you’re at it make sure your perception is accurate. If your points of reference are the men in the adult entertainment industry they are definitely not average, some of them are freaks of nature. According to a study published in the British Journal of Urology, the average length of an erect penis is 5.2 inches, while the circumference was 4.6 inches.

Hopefully, those statistics help you feel better about yourself. Still, no matter where you fall on the size scale I promise you it is absolutely most important what you do with it.