Are you thinking about asking the person you’re dating, “How do you feel about me?” Let me save you from a potentially very awkward conversation that could end your relationship. There is no need to ever ask that question, you just need to pay attention to his or her behavior towards you.
People do what they want to do. Always keep that in mind when you’re trying to figure out someone’s feelings for you. If he loves you, you will feel loved. He’ll want to spend time with you, hear about how your day was, and remember the things you tell him. He’ll care about your needs and feelings.
The reality is, if you’re not sure if she loves you, she probably doesn’t. I don’t say that to hurt you. I say that so you can make a good decision about staying in this relationship or not. If you’re not getting your needs met and not feeling loved, it’s probably time to let go and start looking for a better match for you.
It is true that some people have a hard time showing and/or expressing their feelings. But if that’s the case with your person, then asking, “How do you feel about me?” won’t make him suddenly be able to open up. It will put him on the spot and possibly make him angry. Anger is a much easier emotion for a lot of people than allowing themselves to be vulnerable and express what they’re actually feeling.
But don’t start making excuses for any bad behavior. People who struggle to verbally express themselves can still behave appropriately. Make sure you hold strong boundaries and don’t give your power away. Don’t allow your insecurities to get the best of you.
If you want someone to be more loving towards you, then you have to inspire them to show you affection. Don’t become needy but you could invite her to do more intimate things, such as a weekend away or spending time with your friends or family. If she accepts, she probably is interested and just needs more time to get close to you. But if she declines, that will show you she’s just not that interested.
What I’m basically saying is that actions speak louder than words. The best question to decide the quality of your relationship is the one you need to ask yourself. That is, “Do I feel loved?” If your answer is yes, then you should just be patient and make your partner feel loved too. But if your answer is no, you don’t want to stay in this relationship anyway. You deserve someone who does make you feel loved—without having to ask.
