How to Ask a Girl Out

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Confidence is very attractive and more important than looks are to a woman. So when you want to ask a girl out be brave, make sure you have a plan of what you will do on your date, and don’t be afraid of rejection.

When a woman agrees to go out with a guy the last thing she wants is to have to then plan it. Don’t ask, “What do you want to do?” That is putting her on the spot and it’s undermining your confidence as a man. Be a man with a plan!

Think of something fun and different. Then invite her to do your plan. Even if she’s unsure about you she’s more likely to say yes if she is intrigued by what you’re inviting her to do, and it will give you more time to win her over.

I was once at a party where a guy kept following me around and talking to me. I actually found him a little annoying at first. But then finally he asked, “Would you like to go ice skating in Central Park on Sunday afternoon?” I’d been living in Manhattan for years but I had never done that. I was intrigued and said yes.

Activity dates are great because it gives you something else to focus on besides each other. It’s usually more fun than just sitting at a bar or across a table from someone.

If you’re not in person when you’re asking her out please call her. It’s nice if you have a couple things planned and offer her a choice of things to do. I promise she’ll be impressed. When you ask, don’t pry for information. It’s none of your business what she’s doing on any particular night, just ask her to do something with you, she’ll tell you if she’s not available then. If she says no but gives you another night that doesn’t mean she’s blowing you off, she just truly is busy.

Do not be lazy and just text to ask her out. Communication is the foundation of a good relationship, start yours off right. If you absolutely have to text most definitely say more than just hi. Show some personality to get her attention.

Most importantly, do not be afraid. Ask yourself what’s the worst that could happen. Even if she says no it’s always nice to be asked, you’ll have flattered her. It should make you feel good about yourself that you tried. You never know if you don’t try.

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