They say success is the best revenge. But that’s only true if you’re not trying to get revenge. So if you’re thinking about getting revenge on your ex I warn you it may backfire. Anything you do to purposefully show off for your ex is always transparent, and typically makes you look desperate. It gives away your power.

If you post Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram photos of you purely because you want your ex to see them then you’re re-breaking your own heart all over again. Because it sets you up to keep looking to see if he “liked” it or responded, and if he didn’t it’s going to disappoint you. Even if you don’t expect a response but post pictures of you with someone else to make him jealous it will actually make you appear insecure. As if you have to be in a relationship to be happy. Or if you post shots of you looking fabulous and carefree partying with a group of people, that will only make you look insensitive or possibly even narcissistic. And what if he does “like” or reply to let you know he’s happy that you’re moving on? How will that make you feel? What I’m trying to show you is that doing nothing is by far the strongest choice. Please also see Why You Need to Stop Cyberstalking Your Ex.

All that negative energy you’re focusing on getting back at her for hurting you is causing you to neglect yourself. Turn all that obsessive thinking into brainstorming how to positively improve your life. Start checking off items on your neglected “to do” list. Get out and reconnect with friends and family. Go to the gym, volunteer for a charity, or clean out your closet to make room for the new you. Keep yourself busy and soon you won’t even care what your ex is doing.

Truly the best revenge on your ex is letting go and not caring what he or she is doing. Show her you don’t need anyone who isn’t smart enough to want and value you forever.

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