when you’re out on a date it doesn’t matter how nice and pleasant and Charming you are to your date if you’re

rude to anyone else outside of your date like the waiter or the waitress if

you’re rude to them that’s a huge red flag to your date and it just wiped out all the Charming things that you’ve actually said and you don’t want to be

rude too like it’s not even just the way you treat people it’s in your manism don’t be boisterous in your body language like I was actually at at a

huge very you know prestigious black tie event here in New York it was the in press dinner actually so like all the

major Network like I mean the mayor everybody you recognized everybody that was at this place and this guy that took me who had been quite the gentleman

which I why I went with him in the first place when everybody was kind of getting their coats it was in the winter time at the coat check he pushed his way to the

front and kind of went down to the end and jumped in front of a bunch of people and I was horrified and he was looking at me going come on come on there’s no one over here and like all these people

that we were cutting in of I mean not that it it’s not that because they’re like you know news people it makes them you know any more worthy to not be

cutting in front of him I would have felt the same way if they were any other people but the fact that he had that kind of like balls quite frankly to do

that in front of people that I respected so much including like the mayor of New York City why why this guy think that he

was any better than any of these people that he didn’t have to wait in line that he could jump to the front so sorry I don’t mean to get on attention about it

but it was kind of It kind of blew me away if that guy is you you’ve clearly turned off your date needless to say I

never saw that guy again so I think you need to be respectful and kind hopefully

all the time but most particularly when you’re on a date if you’ve got that A type personality and you need to be

first and you you do anything to be that then be very aware that that’s a choice that you’re making and that most people

are going to be highly turned off by that so also if you start talking about an ex which you should not do anyway but

you’re very rude about the date how you treated her you know the ex trust me your date is going wow this guy’s

abusive or this girl’s abusive you know women can be like this too so you need to reel it in a little bit you need to

be charming and charismatic and in control and compassion right love

Buddhist philosophy the Buddhists very wisely believe that if you have compassion for another person then you can never be angry at them but I think

that also goes to being annoyed right I mean a lot of New Yorkers there used to be a commercial running here that said said let’s face it to a New Yorker wait

is a four-letter word and there’s a lot of Truth in that however you still need to be respectful of other people and if

you have compassion for other people it will help calm down any kind of angst

that you’re feeling in really wanting to be rude to them put yourself in that person’s shoes for a moment and

hopefully you won’t be rude to them it’s really a huge huge turnoff to be rude to any body but most definitely when you’re

on a date I don’t care how wonderful and charismatic and Charming you are to your date if you’re rude to anyone else or

speak badly about anybody else then that’s a huge red flag to your date and really you’re tipping your hand that

you’re not that wonderfully Charming person that you’re good at putting an act on you’re really the person who was rude to the

waiter don’t be that person