Too many people are afraid to tell their partner their wants, needs, and desires because they don’t want to destroy their relationship. But keeping them to yourself will cause other problems and usually end it anyway.
Several of my male clients have all told me the same thing. “The best conversation I ever had with my wife was when she told me she wanted a divorce.” You have nothing to lose anymore if you’re already giving up on the relationship, so it’s easier to say what you honestly feel.