Loving someone who isn’t being loving towards you is a heartbreaking feeling. It causes anxiety that can cause you to behave unattractively, which doesn’t help your cause in wanting to be loved. But understanding that you can’t force love will help you feel better about yourself, and possibly help you get the love that you want.
You absolutely do not want someone who doesn’t want you. Value yourself enough to not chase after someone who isn’t treating you the way you want. When you chase someone, they usually run anyway. Especially if you’re going through a breakup. The more you try to force your ex to love you the more you’ll push him or her away.
By forcing someone to love you, I mean being needy and pushing to get what you want. Don’t pour your heart out and throw your emotion at your partner. That causes most people to shut down. It’s hard to love someone who’s falling apart and not acting empowered. Don’t make yourself a victim by blaming your frustrations on him.
However, if you stay strong, respect boundaries, and take care of your own needs you’ll feel much better about yourself. If you need help raising your self-esteem, I highly recommend The Self-Esteem Workbook
Although, if you’re in a relationship with someone who makes you happy when you’re together, but then you’re miserable when you’re not together, then that’s a relationship you need to get out of. You deserve someone who makes you feel loved all the time. You don’t want to waste any more time with anyone who is right for you.
