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# Donna Barnes

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- [Is AI Making Dating Harder?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/is-ai-making-dating-harder/) -  What if your next date wasn't even human? With all this new technology with AI, where's that heading in dating and with apps and how we meet people and even going forward into our relationships? Welcome to my Broken to Brave podcast. I'm Donna Barnes, the love coach. Technology is always evolving. And so
- [Don't Punish Your Partner](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/dont-punish-your-partner/) -  When your partner makes you angry, is your first instinct to lash back and hurt him or her? S/he hurt you, so turn around is fair play, right? No, that's destroying your relationship. You need to react rationally, with integrity, and don't punish your partner. You may not look at it as punishing. You're
- [Did Your Ex Threaten Suicide?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/did-your-ex-threaten-suicide/) -  It is very common when going through a breakup to have your ex threaten suicide. However, it's usually just a desperate attempt to manipulate you to stay in the relationship. You should not give in to it. Handle your ex threatening to kill herself by getting someone else involved. The very sad truth is
- [Being Impulsive Is Not Smart](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/being-inpulsive-is-not-smart/) -  It is really easy to be impulsive, especially when emotions get high. We tend to react to something in the moment, based on what our instinct is telling us to do. However, I really want to encourage you to not act impulsively. Push the pause button, and just wait for a better part of
- [Is Your Partner Escaping Your Relationship?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/stop-partner-escaping-your-relationship/) -  Is your partner escaping your relationship? Is s/he doing things without you and seemingly paying attention to everything else but you? Is your relationship is over? Not necessarily. Relationships go through many changes, and it's easy to get side tracked by work, unfinished projects, the kids, and even other people once in a while.
- [In Love But Not Happy](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/issues/in-love-but-not-happy/) -  Falling in love can be very allusive. That's why many people stay in relationships that don't really work for them. However, if you're in love but not happy, then you need to make a change. First and foremost, love should make you happy. I ask my clients to put a percentage on the amount
- [Know And Enforce Your Deal Breakers](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/know-and-enforce-your-deal-breakers/) - People reveal themselves if you're paying attention. So if you know and enforce your deal breakers, it can be really easy to avoid heartbreak. Of course, that's easier said than done when you're really hot for someone. As a breakup coach, I talk to a lot of heartbroken clients who when asked can identify red
- [How Do You Feel About Me?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/how-do-you-feel-about-me/) -  Are you thinking about asking the person you're dating, "How do you feel about me?" Let me save you from a potentially very awkward conversation that could end your relationship. There is no need to ever ask that question, you just need to pay attention to his or her behavior towards you. People do
- [Your Ex Doesn't Care](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/your-ex-doesnt-care/) -  After a breakup, many jilted lovers feel the need to communicate their feelings to their ex. They text, email, and/or call to plead their case to give them another chance. But here's the truth about breakups, your ex doesn't care how you feel. Your ex's reality is that he doesn't want to be in
- [10 Rules of Dating](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/10-rules-of-dating/) -  My clients frequently ask me, "What are the rules of dating?" Well, I'm not a fan of dating rules because they tend to make you seem phony and when broken can damage your self-esteem. Instead, I teach my clients how to maintain healthy boundaries, express themselves properly, take care of their own needs, take
- [Amazing Connection Fizzled?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/amazing-connection-fizzled/) - At just a few months into your relationship, are you stressed that your new love seems distant? Feeling like your amazing connection fizzled and scared it might be over? Is this the end? Or just a phase that will pass? Well, that may depend on how you respond. It's hard not to get needy when
- [You Can't Force Love](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/you-cant-force-love/) - Loving someone who isn't being loving towards you is a heartbreaking feeling. It causes anxiety that can cause you to behave unattractively, which doesn't help your cause in wanting to be loved. But understanding that you can't force love will help you feel better about yourself, and possibly help you get the love that you
- [Your “Type” Might Be the Problem — Not You!](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/your-type-might-be-the-problem-not-you/) -  Imagine finding a connection so deep, so fulfilling, that it completely blows your old type out of the water. I'm not talking about settling. I want to talk about how broadening your perspective can open a whole new world of possibilities that you've never even dreamed were even possible and finally find the romantic
- [6 Reasons & 4 Tips for Dating During Covid](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/6-reasons-4-tips-for-dating-during-covid/) -  Being single has never been harder than during this lingering Covid-19 pandemic that makes us isolate alone. Human touch is an essential fundamental to our emotional and physical health. Covid fatigue is now happening as a survival instinct to ward off depression. If you have been by yourself through most of this shut down
- [Looks Don't Make You Happy](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/looks-dont-make-you-happy/) -  In dating, first impressions are largely about looks. Especially if you meet on a dating app. But when it comes to creating a good relationship, looks don’t make you happy. The truth is personality really is more important. I’m sure you’ve met a really attractive person who was not very nice, self-absorbed, or just
- [4 Questions to Consider Before Moving In Together](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/4-questions-to-consider-before-moving-in-together/) - Moving in together is no easy task! Much thought and discussion are necessary throughout the process to feel comfortable and confident with the decision to merge your life with your partner’s in such an intimate way. After all, your home should be your safe space, the oasis you turn to after long days at the
- [How Soon Is Too Soon to Say “I Love You”](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/how-soon-is-too-soon-to-say-i-love-you/) - So you found somebody that you're really connecting with and you're feeling like you love them. When should you first say, love you? If you've done it before first and you got burned by it, then I understand why you'd be afraid to do it again. So let's unpack that. Welcome to my Broken to
- [The Better Way To Breakup](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/issues/the-better-way-to-breakup/) - Hurting someone’s feelings is never easy but if you want to end your relationship it’s the compassionate thing to do. In fact, the more final you can be the better. People hear what they want to hear. If you try to sugar coat the breakup your soon-to-be ex will focus
- [How to Respond to “Why are you still single?”](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/how-to-respond-to-why-are-you-still-single/) - The question, “Why are you still single?” is highly inappropriate because it implies, “What’s wrong with you?” But try not to take offense to it and please don’t defend yourself. Simply respond with an empowered answer. You absolutely do not need to explain the details of why you haven’t gotten married yet. Bottom
- [Bad Boys Are Overrated](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/bad-boys-are-overrated/) - Bad boys got that name because they're not good for you. Their gorgeous looks and cool demeanor make them very appealing. But their self-centered, selfish, ways certainly don't make you happy. Far too many amazing women (and some gay men) demean themselves by putting up with the unavailability of a man they're hot for. Many
- [Red Flags You Need to Heed](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/red-flags-you-need-to-heed/) - If you know what red flags to look for in the beginning of a relationship then you can make a better decision about who is a keeper and who is just fun for right now. When you observe red flag behavior don’t ignore it. I promise you it will get worse if
- [5 Tips to Handle First Date Nerves](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/5-tips-to-handle-first-date-nerves/) - Do you get nervous on dates? Be careful, you may be sending the wrong message to your date — that you’re not interested. The most common reason people get nervous is because they want their date to like them. Unfortunately, that is usually what causes the date to fail. If you
- [How to Be a Desirable Nice Guy](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/how-to-be-a-desirable-nice-guy/) - Are you a nice guy who feels like you always finish last? Tired of getting stuck in the “friend zone”? Frustrated that every girl wants a perfect prince charming? Wondering if it's even possible to be a desirable nice guy? Well, you can be prince charming; and also get any girl you want if you hold
- [Signs Your Single-Self Is Too Picky](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/signs-your-single-self-is-too-picky/) - “Why are you still single?” is a commonly asked question that is essentially a backward compliment. It implies “Wow, you’re great, why doesn’t anybody want you?” The most common responses are: “I just haven’t met anyone I have chemistry with.” “The one I wanted got away.” “All the good ones
- [Want Your Ex Back?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/want-your-ex-back/) - Be Careful What You Wish For If you’re pining for your ex and hoping to reunite, the best way to feel better is to get over him or her by deciding you don’t want them back. Ask yourself if it was honestly a good relationship for you. I’m not talking about in the beginning when
- [Are You High Maintenance on Dates?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/are-you-high-maintenance-on-dates/) - No one likes to be on a date with someone who is high maintenance. Your behavior becomes high maintenance if you’re struggling with feeling insecure or holding high or unreasonable expectations. The main objective of going on a date is to have fun while getting to know each other. No matter what happens, never lose
- [Avoiding Sex Because You Feel Unattractive?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/avoiding-sex-because-you-feel-unattractive/) - If you're not feeling sexy and therefore avoiding sex with your man you are destroying your relationship. I understand the lack of desire to have sex when you don’t feel good. I’m sure your partner does too. But if you’re avoiding sex for long periods of time because you don’t feel good ABOUT yourself then you’re
- [Do You Keep Falling for Lovers Who Are Unavailable?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/do-you-keep-falling-for-lovers-who-are-unavailable/) - Has everyone you dated been unavailable to you in one way or another? They may seem available in some ways but are they also long distance, emotionally closed, won’t commit completely, or married to someone else? Be really honest with yourself and answer the following 3 questions. How available is this guy
- [Breakup With Your Frenemies](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/breakup-with-your-frenemies/) - Do you have a friend that you don’t really like but you stay friends with anyway? The very nature of the word “frenemy” which is a merging of the completely opposite words “friend” and “enemy” should tell you it’s not a good relationship. But frenemies are more than just bad
- [6 Tips to Avoid the Friend Zone](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/6-tips-to-avoid-the-friend-zone/) - Women are attracted to men they respect and desire. You can avoid the friend zone and make a woman want to be more than just friends with you by being confident and showing her you’re attracted to her. 6 Tips to Avoid the Friend Zone Make eye contact, lean into her, get close, and flirt. Show
- [8 Signs Your Relationship is Too Hard](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/8-signs-your-relationship-is-too-hard/) - Did you think you possibly found the love of your life but you’re not feeling happy? Are you frequently frustrated, confused, angry, or sad? Do you feel like you’re bending over backward and jumping through hoops to be there for your partner but not getting your own needs met? IT’S NOT SUPPOSED TO BE THAT HARD!
- [Your Emotional Wall Keeps You Alone](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/your-emotional-wall-keeps-you-alone/) - Being emotionally open in a relationship is very scary for people who are uncomfortable with feeling vulnerable. Putting up an emotional wall to hide behind feels safe. After all, it is much easier to get angry than to share what you’re truly feeling. But I have to caution you, hiding behind your emotional wall keeps you alone. You need
- [Can You Accept "No" or Do You Push to Get Your Way?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/can-you-accept-no-or-do-you-push-to-get-your-way/) - When someone tells you no can you hear that? Or do you push to get your way and what you want anyway? Ignoring the answer when it’s not the one you wanted is a violation of boundaries. Trying to justify why you should get your way is manipulation. Each behavior is very annoying to be on the receiving
- [10 Texting Rules to Help Your Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/10-texting-rules-to-help-your-relationship/) - I’m not a fan of rules for relationships but texting is one of the worst ways to communicate with a lover. It’s lazy and vague. The true meaning is left up to the reader’s interpretation. As a relationship coach, I have spent far too much time trying to calm down a
- [5 Examples of Inappropriate Boundaries](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/5-examples-of-inappropriate-boundaries/) - Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t give you permission to be part of everything in their life. Time apart from each other is actually necessary to keep you both happy, and snooping is never helpful. So how appropriate are your boundaries? Part of having healthy boundaries is accepting your partner’s boundaries
- [Work Out Together to Stay Together](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/work-out-together-to-stay-together/) - Want to spend some quality time with your partner? How about working out together? It may not be something you would have thought of, but exercising together could actually prove to be the perfect fitness program for you both and do wonders for your relationship to help you stay together. If you want a long, strong
- [Don’t Get Married Younger Than 25](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/dont-get-married-younger-than-25/) - Falling in love is exciting. When you think you’ve found “the one” its fun to fantasize about walking down the aisle together. Nonetheless, if you haven’t celebrated your twenty-fifth birthday yet you should not actually plan the wedding — or worse, go through with getting married. Recent research has found that the Brain’s
- [Not Ready to Have a Baby?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/not-ready-to-have-a-baby/) - If you’re not ready to have a baby yet it’s 100% your responsibility to protect yourself from unwanted pregnancy. Assuming that the girl is on the pill, or that she’ll have an abortion if she gets pregnant, are very dangerous and naïve attitudes. Before you have unprotected sex you need to have a conversation about
- [Escaping Abuse](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/escaping-abuse/) - A checklist of essentials to take with you when escaping abuse Walking out the door and away from an abuser—or kicking an abusive partner out the door, if so inclined—is seldom as easy as it sounds. Abusers thrive on power and control, and having their victim leave them is the ultimate loss of control. Hence, abusers
- [Looking at Your Partner’s Phone](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/looking-at-your-partners-phone/) - If you feel the need to look at your partner’s phone there is something wrong; either with your relationship, or with you. Under no circumstance is it appropriate for you to snoop in your lover’s phone. It’s a violation of his/her boundaries. It damages trust. Once trust is gone it’s
- [Tips to Handle and Stop Bullying](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/tips-to-handle-and-stop-bullying/) - Highlights Bullying occurs on a daily or weekly basis in 23 percent of public schools across the United States. It has a negative effect on everyone, including the bully, the target, the people who witness it, and anyone else connected to it. Bullying is a community issue and requires a
- [Insecurity Is All In Your Head](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/insecurity-is-all-in-your-head/) - Everyone is insecure on some level. We can feel unwanted, unloved, unappreciated, inadequate, undeserving, neglected, and so on. Fear is mostly to blame. We fear abandonment, betrayal, intimacy, commitment, etc. But all of our fears and insecurities are created by our thoughts. Which makes it all in our heads. Our thoughts
- [Addiction And Domestic Violence](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/addiction-and-domestic-violence/) - A Look At The Connections Between Addiction and Domestic Violence Addiction affects millions of lives each year; not only does the individual who is battling the addiction suffer, but their families often do, as well. In some cases, alcohol and drug addiction can be linked to domestic violence, which can be physical, mental, emotional, or
- [Domestic Violence Against Men](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/domestic-violence-against-men/) - Women aren't the only victims of domestic violence. Understand the signs of domestic violence against men, and know how to get help. Recognize the signs of domestic violence against men Domestic violence — also known as intimate partner violence — occurs between people in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence against men can take many forms,
- [Do Opposites Attract or Is Commonality Better?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/do-opposites-attract-or-is-commonality-better/) - You frequently hear that opposites attract but then also hear that like attracts like. Which is better? If you’re a follower of my blog then you know that I believe commonality is crucial to making a relationship last long-term. You need to have common ethics, values, and goals — similar
- [12 Steps to Protect Your Finances When Leaving an Abusive Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/12-steps-to-protect-your-finances-when-leaving-an-abusive-relationship/) - Lisa Orban was married to her abuser for three years. In 1990, she left after he threatened to kill her and their two young children. She was 20 years old. Her financial situation in the marriage? “Bad, in a nutshell,” she recalls. Not
- [Are You The Rebound?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/are-you-the-rebound/) - You always hear that you’re not supposed to talk about past relationships when you first start dating someone new. However, the one exception to that rule is to find out whether he/she is truly available for a new relationship or if you’re just the rebound. Ask permission to ask by saying, “Can I ask …
- [Be Careful With Other’s Feelings](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/be-careful-with-others-feelings/) - Being negligent or insensitive with a lover’s feelings or worse intentionally hurting them is mean, and can cause you a lot of unnecessary grief. Being on the receiving end of uncaring actions is typically what leads a jilted lover to obsessive and even stalking behaviors. So protect yourself from future
- [Dating An Addict](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/dating-an-addict/) - Having a positive attitude and being a supportive partner is something I highly recommend—unless you’re dating an addict. When you first meet an alcoholic, you may not see his or her drinking as a problem. Drinking is very social, and when you’re attracted to someone, it’s easy to get swept
- [No One Makes You Do Anything](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/no-one-makes-you-do-anything/) - Before you blame your partner for making you do something, stop and think, "I have free will to choose my behavior." Then make sure that you always choose your actions wisely. No one makes you do anything. You ALWAYS have a choice. If you don't choose to make a good choice, one that you're comfortable with
- [Confidence is Different Than Self-Esteem](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/confidence-is-different-than-self-esteem/) - Many highly successful people have tremendous confidence but low self-esteem. Do you know the difference? Self-esteem and self-confidence frequently get mistaken for one another, but they are two separate things. Self-confidence is the belief in one’s ability to do something, such as managing a business, speaking in public, playing sports, or even
- [When & How to Reveal Your Past Hardships](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/when-how-to-reveal-your-past-hardships/) - Being an open book is a sign of unhealthy boundaries. If you reveal deeply personal info about your past too soon you’re waving bright red flags to the person you’re trying to endear to you. There is a time and place for everything. The first few months of dating is supposed to be about having
- [Dating Out of Your League](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/dating-out-of-your-league/) - If you’re feeling like you’re not good enough for the person you’re dating then he or she will ultimately decide that too. Because you are what you think you are. Your behavior, actions, and insecurities all reflect your thoughts and are transparent to your partner. So if you don’t want to lose him
- [First Date or One Night Stand?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/first-date-or-one-night-stand/) - There is no guarantee to see each other again if you have sex on the first date. So if it’s going really well and you decide to have sex that first night, be really clear that you may be choosing a one night stand. If that’s not ok with you,
- [Are You in Limbo?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/are-you-in-limbo/) - Are you waiting for something to happen that is out of your control? Like for your ex to come back, to get married, or move forward? That’s being in limbo, and limbo sucks. Take your power back. Make a strong choice that you want something better. Take action and/or walk
- [How to Survive the Weekends After a Breakup](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/how-to-survive-the-weekends-after-a-breakup/) - What is my ex doing without me this weekend? That’s one of the hardest parts of a breakup — but you can survive, and even be happy if you choose to not think about him/her at all! Don’t cyberstalk his/her social media pages, don’t imagine who he/she is with, and don’t talk about your ex
- [Don’t Reject When Feeling Rejected](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/dont-reject-when-feeling-rejected/) - It’s a defense mechanism to reject someone you feel rejected by. But if you’re feeling rejected by the person you’re in a relationship with you need to resist that instinct and communicate how you’re feeling. You need to find out what you don’t know. We tend to take everything personally when
- [Why You Should Never Ask How Many Men She Slept With](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/why-you-should-never-ask-how-many-men-she-slept-with/) - You are never supposed to discuss the details of your past relationships with your new partner. Women who constantly talk about their ex, or exes, create jealousy and insecurity in their partner. It certainly doesn’t create healthy intimacy between you; in fact, it usually destroys it. Most men don’t want to hear about any other
- [Why You Should Look for Someone Who is Divorced](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/why-you-should-look-for-someone-who-is-divorced/) - A lot of single people search for someone who’s “never been married”. I certainly do understand the romantic notion that you could be each other’s first marriage. However, as you get older it’s harder and harder to find people who have never taken vows; and you undoubtedly find many people with commitment issues (which means they’ll probably
- [Natural Cure for a Painful Breakup](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/natural-cure-for-a-painful-breakup/) - The pain of someone you love breaking up with you can be more than you can bear at times. So I’d like to offer you an easy, natural way to feel better. Simply go for a run! Working out is a natural antidepressant. It stimulates your brain to
- [Allow Yourself to Be Vulnerable](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/allow-yourself-to-be-vulnerable/) - I know that it can be incredibly scary to feel vulnerable. However, if you want a long-lasting relationship you need to be able to express your inner thoughts and feelings to your partner, and be able to listen to his/her wants and needs. Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?” If the worst …
- [Why You Should Always Accept a Compliment](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/why-you-should-always-accept-a-compliment/) - You should always accept a compliment. After all, it’s flattering when someone notices you and let's you know they appreciate you—at least it should be. It’s usually intended to be nice, to positively acknowledge you. It should make you feel good about yourself—boost your self-image. However, how many times have you responded to a compliment
- [Don't Manifest Your Relationship Fears](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/dont-manifest-your-relationship-fears/) - "The only thing we have to fear is fear itself" Franklin D. Roosevelt Fear of abandonment, fear of intimacy, fear of commitment, fear of change, fear of rejection, fear of failure, and even fear of success — fear destroys relationships. You have to control your relationship fears before they cause you to act in destructive ways. If
- [“I’ve Never Felt This Way Before” Can Be a Huge Red Flag](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/ive-never-felt-this-way-before-can-be-a-huge-red-flag/) - Love is hard to find, so when you hear, “I’ve never felt this way before” you may think you’ve finally found “the one”. But have you? Be careful — it may mean you’re heading for disappointing heartbreak. If you’ve dated a lot but have never truly fallen in love before you have
- [The First 3 to 6 Months of a Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/the-first-3-to-6-months-of-a-relationship/) - The first six months of a relationship are the honeymoon phase. However, most relationships never last past three to six months. You have to protect your heart so you don’t get blindsided. Many people are desperately looking for “the one”. They hopefully go on date after date, trying not to …
- [Disguise Your Phone Number for Online Dating](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/disguise-your-phone-number-for-online-dating/) - When you start communicating with someone you met online do you feel uncomfortable to give him or her your phone number? If you block your number to call most people won’t answer, and it seems like you’re hiding something. So how do you be open and friendly while still keeping yourself safe? You disguise your
- [You Can't Control What Your Ex Does](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/you-cant-control-what-your-ex-does/) - When living through a breakup your ex consumes the majority of your thoughts. What is he doing? Why doesn’t she want me? What’s wrong with me? That’s when the bargaining stage of the grief process begins. You start obsessing about what you could do better so you can get your …
- [If You Escape Your Relationship You're Going To Lose It](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/if-you-escape-your-relationship-youre-going-to-lose-it/) - Do you avoid intimacy or spending time with your significant other? Do you need a lot of space? If so, you're pushing him or her away. I need to warn you, if you escape your relationship you're going to lose it. Comments from YouTube: bsmanning83 How timely, Donna! I left the relationship Friday because of just
- [Is Your Kryptonite Destroying Your Relationship?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/issues/is-your-kryptonite-destroying-your-relationship/) - Can’t stop thinking about someone you can’t have? Feel like you’re settling in some way for the relationship you’re in? That’s what I call Relationship kryptonite. Perhaps it’s your ex that you haven’t gotten over, “the one that got away”. Or frequently it’s a one night stand, or a fabulous …
- [Never Tell Your Number of Sex Partners](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/never-tell-your-number-of-sex-partners/) - It is a huge red flag if your man asks you, “How many men have you had sex with?” Do not allow him to make you feel bad about yourself or that you’re even obligated to answer what your number of sex partners is. What you did prior to meeting this man has helped you
- [After A Breakup Your Ex Gets All Or Nothing](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/after-a-breakup-your-ex-gets-all-or-nothing/) - Breakups are really painful. Many of my clients who come to me looking for help to either get their ex back or get over the heartache have never reached out for any kind of help before. But they find themselves unable to handle this kind of grief. Losing the love …
- [Does Size Matter?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/does-size-matter/) - Many of my male clients have asked me, “Does size matter?” The truth (from a woman who speaks to a lot of women) is yes, size does matter to SOME women, and NO, it doesn’t matter to the majority of women; and there is nothing you can do about that. So stop worrying about it.
- [Pay Attention to Clues of Bad Behavior (Red Flags)](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/pay-attention-to-clues-of-bad-behavior-red-flags/) - After a breakup I always ask my clients if they know what went wrong. Just about all of them can point to at least one thing that happened that foreshadowed their breakup, they just didn’t pay attention to it at the time. You can save yourself a lot of heartache and also time if …
- [Don’t Ask Questions If You Can’t Handle The Answers](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/dont-ask-questions-if-you-cant-handle-the-answers/) - Probably the easiest way to avoid hurting yourself more when you’re struggling through a painful breakup is to stop talking to your ex. Most definitely, don’t ask any questions that can spike your anxiety and make you feel worse if you don’t get the answer you want. Before you ask …
- [Told to Stop Yelling When You Didn't Feel You Were?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/told-to-stop-yelling-when-you-didnt-feel-you-were/) - Have you been told, “Stop yelling at me,” when you didn’t feel like you were yelling? You may have even replied, “I’m not yelling, trust me, you’ll know when I am yelling.” However, what you need to hear is that you don’t have to raise your voice to be yelling …
- [Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/nothing-changes-if-nothing-changes/) -  It sounds so simple and stupid, but it's arguably the most important saying you need to remember. If you want something to change, you need to initiate change, because nothing changes if nothing changes. Especially when it comes to relationships. If you want your partner to change, you need to change to effect the
- [Being Stubborn Destroys Relationships](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/being-stubborn-destroys-relationships/) -  Have you ever realized that you were wrong but were too proud, aka stubborn, to admit it? So you find yourself digging in your heels and making things worse? Or maybe you just need to have things your way and don't like to compromise. Is it always your way or the highway? If so,
- [Stop Giving Your Ex Hope](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/issues/stop-giving-your-ex-hope/) - If you know that you are completely done with your ex and never want to get back together, then please stop giving your ex hope that you'll reunite. I say that because it's hard to completely disconnect from someone, especially if you were together a long time. It feels good for the person who wanted
- [Holiday Survival Guide: In-laws Edition](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/holiday-survival-guide-in-laws-edition/) - Whether newly married or recently celebrating your tenth anniversary, the holiday season never fails to ignite a variety and range of emotions. The holidays are supposed to be a time filled with joyous and heartfelt moments, spent with family, friends, presents, food, and of course cookies and milk. Keyword, “supposed.” This season is often associated
- [Beauty & Self-Care Tips To Look Your Best + Boost Confidence For a First Date](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/beauty-self-care-tips-to-help-you-look-your-best-boost-confidence-for-a-first-date/) - First impressions are everything, especially in the dating scene. Exuding confidence, believing in yourself, and feeling beautiful is integral for you to put your best foot forward when meeting that special someone for the first time. In order to do so, you need to have a good relationship with yourself. You must love yourself first
- [New Year, New Relationship: Tips To Up Your Dating Game](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/new-year-tips-to-up-your-dating-game/) - [vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=””] With the New Year comes new beginnings, and you’re probably dreaming of meeting that special someone you have been waiting for. Perhaps you are reflecting on your dating experience of the past year, what you are looking for now, or how to find your happiness. Maybe you have felt frustrated for not making
- [Don't Hold Your Feelings In When Your Partner Upsets You](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/dont-hold-your-feelings-in-when-your-partner-upsets-you/) - If your partner does something that upsets you, you need to speak up about how you feel immediately — without yelling. Therein lies the problem for a lot of people. Don't hold your feelings in when your partner upsets you. It’s hard to express what you feel in the moment that it’s happening. You may
- [Should I Take My Ex Back? Or Stay With My New Love?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/should-i-take-my-ex-back-or-stay-with-my-new-love/) - After a breakup, most people don’t stop thinking about their ex until they fall in love with someone else. Therefore, when you first meet someone new you may still have feelings for your ex. That can really complicate things if your ex decides s/he wants to get back together with you.
- [You Can Never Take Back Mean Words](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/you-can-never-take-back-mean-words/) - Mean and nasty criticism of your partner, said out of anger, with an intention just to hurt will permanently damage your relationship, and very possibly end it for good. So if you're not trying to break up then you need to choose your words very carefully and always speak with compassion for your listener — no matter how angry
- [Do You Know if You're Self-Absorbed?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/do-you-know-if-youre-self-absorbed/) - After a breakup, it's easy to have 20/20 vision about what you could have done differently to save the relationship. But how about while you're still in the relationship? If your current partner is important to you then you need to make sure you're focusing enough of your attention on making him/her happy — before
- [Are You an Enabler? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/are-you-an-enabler-quiz/) - Truly loving someone means you want the best for them. However, giving them everything they want is far from what's best for anyone. It creates codependence. And makes you an enabler. When you're given things instead of having to work hard to achieve them for yourself you don't learn anything. To reach your full potential
- [How To Avoid Bad Dating Advice From Friends](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/how-to-avoid-bad-dating-advice-from-friends/) - Being single can be frustrating for many reasons. The annoyance of having to put up with everyone else's opinion about your love life makes singledom even worse. This nosey concern is typically followed by well-meaning tips to help you find "your person." However, being in a relationship doesn't make you qualified to give dating advice. How long
- [Valentine Gift Ideas](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/valentine-gift-ideas/) - Coming up with appropriate Valentine gift ideas can be stressful at every stage of a relationship. But the best and easiest gift to give is to be thoughtful. Everyone wants to feel loved, that's the defining quality of a good relationship. Do something for your partner that says you pay attention to the things s/he
- [Get Your Needs Met](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/issues/get-your-needs-met/) - Are you waiting for your partner to change so you can get your needs met? That's giving your power away, and leaving you in limbo. We are all responsible for taking care of our own needs. What you need to do is enforce stronger boundaries. As soon as your partner does something that you don't
- [Focusing On Your Past Destroys Your Future](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/issues/focusing-on-your-past-destroys-your-future/) -  When someone you love has betrayed you or hurt you in any way, it's hard to let it go. But if you love your partner and want to make your relationship work you need to stop focusing on your past before it destroys your future. It's a waste of your time and energy to
- [If You Think It Say It](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/if-you-think-it-say-it/) -  Good communication is essential to keep a relationship happy. Unfortunately, not everyone is good at sharing their feelings. So I'd like to offer you a simple idea to keep your partner happy. If you think it, say it — good or bad. Just make sure you're not being judgmental or mean. One way
- [How Do You Feel About You?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/how-do-you-feel-about-you/) - Relationships can make you very insecure, and wondering how someone else feels about you is hard not to do. But what's most important is how you feel about you. I mean what you say to yourself when you look in the mirror, or when something doesn't go the way you want. Are you kind and
- [Forgive or Forgo](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/issues/forgive-or-forgo/) -  Forgive and forget is much easier said than done when you feel betrayed or unloved. When you're unable to get past something that your partner did, or didn't do, it's easy to become passive-aggressive. The impulse to punish your partner for hurting you is certainly understandable. However, make sure your true desire is
- [The Painful Truth About Your Breakup](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/the-painful-truth-about-your-breakup/) -  There is no quick fix to stop hurting from your breakup. No one can guarantee to get your ex back, because people have free will. You can’t control what your ex does; and the more you try the less attractive you become. Did you try no contact for 30 days? And your ex
- [How Often Do You Fight?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/issues/how-often-do-you-fight/) -  Fighting is normal, right? If you don't argue, you're just sweeping issues under the rug, right? Well, I can only answer yes with the HUGE caveat that how often and in what manner you fight will either make, or break your relationship. The only winner of any argument should be your relationship. A productive
- [Maybe It Was Something You Said](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/something-you-said/) -  Do you think you really connected, but now it's suddenly over, and you don't even know what happened? It was going so well! How could someone's feelings change so fast? Well, unfortunately, it really can be as simple as one wrong statement in something you said. We are seeing that happen everywhere in today's
- [Confidence is More Important Than Looks](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/confidence-is-more-important-than-looks/) - What is your core belief about yourself? Do you feel smart? Successful? Talented? Do you feel sexy? A male client came to me to get help getting girls. More specifically, he wanted to get them to have sex with him. He was intelligent and very accomplished in his career, for that he was highly
- [What NOT To Do After A Good First Date](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/what-not-to-do-after-a-good-first-date/) - I’ve been hearing a lot of stories recently about bad behavior after a good first date. So I thought it might be worth writing about what is inappropriate, lacking in boundaries, or even downright creepy. Here are a few actual situations (with the names changed to protect privacy). 1. Inappropriate At the end of
- [Are Looks Important?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/are-looks-important/) - Society is now thankfully focused on empowering people to feel good about themselves no matter what size, shape, or color they are. I'm all for that! You are what you think you are. However, when it comes to dating the answer to, "Are looks important?' is still yes. Just about every man that I
- [Could You Fall in Love with Someone You've Never Met?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/could-you-fall-in-love-with-someone-youve-never-met/) - If you’ve been online looking for love, you’ve probably heard of the term Catfish. Maybe you’ve even seen the MTV show. If you’re like me, you’ve thought people were crazy when you heard stories about them falling in love and even mortgaging their house or putting themselves into debt to give money away all for a man or
- [Signs You Are Dating a Narcissist](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/signs-you-are-dating-a-narcissist/) - He’s devastatingly charming, mesmerizingly handsome, and has an intoxicating charisma. He’s telling you how amazing you are and quickly commits to loving you forever. Have you finally found the love of your life? Or are you setting yourself up for the heartache that comes with loving a narcissist? That depends on how many checks you
- [Why You Need To Look Like Your Online Photos](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/why-you-need-to-look-like-your-online-photos/) - It is very important to look like your online photos. Just about every man that I have coached at one point has asked, “Is it shallow that what she looks like is really important to me?” “No,” I always say, “your brain is designed to function that way.” A brain-imaging study of men in love
- [Online Messaging](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/online-messaging/) - How to Get a Positive Response A common complaint about online messaging is that the people you find attractive never reply. If you make your message stand out you can increase your odds. Here are a few guidelines for online messaging: 1. Be Respectful and Have Boundaries. Don't just send a message to a pretty
- [Why You Shouldn't Lie About Your Height to Get a Date](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/why-you-shouldnt-lie-about-your-height-to-get-a-date/) - If you lie about your height online will not help you connect with someone who wants a tall guy, and it will destroy your self-esteem. You absolutely do not want anyone who doesn't want you exactly as you are. So there is no need to falsify who you are to entice someone into meeting you.
- [How to Find Someone Great Online](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/how-to-find-someone-great-online/) - Do you feel like there is no one good online? When you first signed up for the dating site did you feel excited about all your potential matches, but then after a week or so become disappointed that you hadn't made a good connection? On top of that now there aren't many new matches appearing,
- [5 Mistakes Men Make in Online Profiles](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/5-mistakes-men-make-in-online-profiles/) - Many of my clients come to me because they're frustrated with online dating and they're tired of being single. They know they're doing something wrong they're just not sure what. I very much enjoy helping men and women find the relationships they crave, and frequently it's as simple as catching mistakes in their online profile. Here
- [Be Honest In Your Online Profile](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/be-honest-in-your-online-profile/) - You need to be honest in your online profile to attract the right person for you. However, oversharing will turn people off. So how honest should you be? If you know you have a core personality trait that has frequently prevented you from creating harmony with a certain type of personality, then you need to
- [How to Use Online Dating RIGHT](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/how-to-use-online-dating-right/) - Why try online dating? Because it works! Millions of happy couples have found true love via the internet. So why haven’t you? Perhaps you tried it but didn’t connect with anyone special. Do you feel that everyone lies? Shows up looking nothing like their picture? The best ones never respond? Or maybe you haven’t tried
- [Why You Need To Get Online Now](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/why-you-need-to-get-online-now/) - December through February is the most popular time of the year to get online. If you've never tried a dating site or app before I highly recommend you get online now (no matter what time of the year it is). I believe online is the best way to meet someone. I met the love of my
- [How to Be a Better Listener](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/how-to-be-a-better-listener/) - One of the most frustrating things to come up against in a discussion or disagreement is someone who frequently interrupts. Isn’t it annoying when you can’t finish speaking your thoughts, let alone complete a full sentence? It’s called conversation hijacking. It clearly demonstrates a lack of interest. If that's something you're guilt of you absolutely need
- [How to Stop Arguing](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/how-to-stop-arguing/) - Couples come to me for coaching looking for an answer for how to stop arguing. They each tell me their side, and I check to make sure they're both being heard. But sometimes the only solution is to agree to disagree. The objective for any argument should be to find a better way to coexist
- [When to Return a Call or Text](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/when-to-return-a-call-or-text/) - Clients frequently ask me when to return a call or text. They want to know how long they should wait before responding to someone they're interested in. The answer is, don't wait. You should respond as soon as you want to. The idea that you have to play hard-to-get is junk-food. If you begin a
- [How to Keep Love Alive](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/how-to-keep-love-alive/) - How to keep love alive? People need to feel desired and wanted. Simple acknowledgment goes a long way toward fostering love and keeping your partner happy. Once you’re in a healthy, committed relationship, share any loving thought that goes through your head. Compliment your partner frequently—make it a habit. Tell her she’s beautiful or sexy. Tell
- [How to Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/how-to-stop-sabotaging-your-relationships/) - To stop sabotaging your relationships you need to think before you act. The next time you're feeling anxious or starting to panic because you haven't heard from your man, or because he rejected you, yelled at you, or sent a text or e-mail that upset you, pause and breathe deeply. When your mind starts racing
- [How to Communicate Better](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/how-to-communicate-better/) - One of the biggest mistakes in love is expecting your partner to know you so well that he or she will instinctively recognize exactly what you want and need. Is your partner psychic? Does your partner have ESP? No! You shouldn't presume that he or she has such abilities. No matter how intuitive he or she is or
- [How to Increase Emotional Intimacy](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/how-to-increase-emotional-intimacy/) - So what is emotional intimacy? Real intimacy takes time to establish. It involves trust and mutually feeling safe to be vulnerable, allowing healthy self-disclosure without fearing being betrayed or misunderstood. It involves respect, tolerance, and always sharing how you feel—no secrets. In a truly intimate relationship, you will feel safe, loved, appreciated, and emotionally supported.
- [How to Recognize a Cheater](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/how-to-recognize-a-cheater/) - Perhaps the greatest cause of heartburn is the feeling of betrayal as you recognize a cheater. Trust is an essential ingredient of a healthy relationship, and once it’s lost or threatened, it’s extremely hard to get back. Unfortunately, cheating is a part of far too many relationships. As of September 8, 2012, statistics from the
- [How Fantasies and Expectations Sabotage Relationships](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/how-fantasies-and-expectations-sabotage-relationships/) - When you catch yourself getting all worked up and calling your friends to complain about something you think is going on with your man, stop! Ask yourself what the facts are. Only respond to what is actually going on, not what you think is happening. Do not decide what he is thinking. Most of the
- [Why You Shouldn't Make Promises While Dating](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/why-you-shouldnt-make-promises-while-dating/) - Falling in love is arguably the best feeling in the world. You can't get enough of each other, can't stop thinking about each other, and feel like it's going to last forever. But the reality is nothing truly lasts forever, relationships change with time. Sometimes for the better, more commonly for the worst. Therefore, it's
- [Are Your Expectations Ruining Your Relationships?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/are-your-expectations-ruining-your-relationships/) - I think the number one cause of heartache and disappointment in relationships is failed expectations. Expectations are built in several ways: by reading into your man’s behavior, by romanticizing a relationship to be more than it truly is, by wanting something without expressing your needs or by simply ignoring things you are shown or told.
- [Are You Too Masculine for Your Man?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/are-you-too-masculine-for-your-man/) - You’re sexy, confident, and successful; you’re frequently told you’re a great catch. So why don’t your relationships last? You may be showing too much masculine energy. You may be too masculine for your man. Most women today are good at taking care of themselves. Many have multiple degrees, high powered jobs, or own their own
- [Smart Women Know When to be Submissive](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/smart-women-know-when-to-be-submissive/) - Submissive is a hot charged word that conjures up images of centuries-old behavior that feminists have fought long and hard to change. So Good Morning America did a follow-up story when Candice Cameron-Bure (formerly of Full House) said that one of the secrets behind the success of her 17-year marriage was being submissive to her
- [We Protect You From Scammers](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/we-protect-you-from-scammers/) - Online Dating Safety Advice Tips from Donna Barnes Dating to Protect You From Scammers Online dating can be a safer experience than traditional dating. It gives you a wider scope of choice and you can remain at a distance until you are ready to meet. If you've never tried it before or if you are
- [6 Tips to Write a Great Online Profile](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/6-tips-to-write-a-great-online-profile/) - What you write in your online profile will make or break your chances of finding the right person for you. Before you can write a great online profile you need to put a lot of thought into what you want and need. Don't be afraid to scare off anyone by posting it. The whole point
- [8 guidelines for posting pictures online](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/8-guidelines-for-posting-pictures-online/) - The number one complaint about online dating is that people don’t look like their pictures. Let’s face it, initial attraction is about looks. When you admire someone across a room, do a double take in a grocery line or smile at a stranger on the street; it’s because something about them was visually appealing. It’s
- [Why Men Say Things They Don't Mean](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/why-men-say-things-they-dont-mean/) - I'm sure we have all at one time or another gotten excited about something a man told us on a date, and then got angry when he never brought it up again and it didn't happen. Why do men say things they don't mean? How many times have you called that guy nasty names? Well,
- [Are You Too Intimidating for Your Date?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/are-you-too-intimidating-for-your-date/) - The price of success? We all want to be liked, but being humble is the way to catch someone's attention. The more fabulous you are, the less attractive you may actually be to the person you want. Are you too intimidating for your date? Women tend to remain single longer in New York. I’m proof
- [How to Recognize Verbal Abuse](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/how-to-recognize-verbal-abuse/) - It's abusive if your partner criticizes things you say, how you do things, or what you look like. That may sound obvious, but if he's disguising it as humor, it's harder to recognize—and to stop. If you do rebut his comments, he'll probably tell you that you're too sensitive or have no sense of humor.
- [Are You Sure You Want to Send That Email?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/are-you-sure-you-want-to-send-that-email/) - Too many people send that email that kills all chances to make their relationship work. I think it would be great if there could be an app to check the emotional tone of emails before they’re sent, the same way that spell check corrects errors. Only the perfect app would even go farther to destroy
- [When to First Have Sex](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/when-to-first-have-sex/) - When to first have sex can make or break a potential relationship. Kissing will never again be as passionate and romantic as it is before sex, so take your time and enjoy the anticipation it creates. Think about how amazing your first time is going to be when you’re already falling in love. But if
- [How to Fight Fairly to Help Your Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/how-to-fight-fairly-to-help-your-relationship/) - Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? Ask yourself that the next time you find yourself digging in your heels in an argument. What are you really trying to get? Too many of us get caught up in the fight of needing to win, which translates into not wanting
- [Don't Communicate Online Without Watching This](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/dont-communicate-online-without-watching-this/) - A scammer's primary tool, and tell, is to communicate online only developing deep emotional intimacy without meeting you. It will seem realistic to you; he or she is temporarily out of state or out of the country but lives near you. Their profile will seem highly appealing so you'll be willing to wait to meet
- [The Dating Diet](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/the-dating-diet/) - Bad relationships are pretty much the same as junk food. They usually start out with a hunger or craving for companionship, but if this healthy craving escalates into loneliness and neediness, such people tend to make bad choices. They might just grab whoever's available or seek out a particular type that at first glance always
- [My Partner Cheated On Me](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/my-partner-cheated-on-me/) - I frequently get asked the question, "How do I handle staying with someone who cheated on me?" To make it work you have to be able to forgive completely. If you can’t then you have to get out. Forgiving completely means that you do not nag and you re-establish trust. Unfortunately, after being betrayed most people
- [How to Handle Dating Someone With Debt](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/how-to-handle-dating-someone-with-debt/) - Question: I have been dating this woman she has some stress from past debt, her job currently doesn’t cover her personal loans and credit card balance. How much of a concern should this be for us moving forward? ANSWER: First off, I’m glad she’s being honest with you. If you’re serious about planning a future with this
- [Excuse Me, But -](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/excuse-me-but/) - Why healthy boundaries help both in & out of relationships If you went to purchase shoes that were labeled ON SALE but the salesperson rang them up at full price, what would you do? Most fashionistas wouldn’t hesitate to speak up and get them for the discounted price. But how about if the hot guy
- [When to Take Down Your Online Profile](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/when-to-take-down-your-online-profile/) - When you first start dating someone you met online you should "don't ask, don't tell" about dating other people. Assume your new love interest is dating other people, and you should too. It will keep your relationship balanced and prevent you from getting too attached too quickly, and from potentially getting hurt. So when to
- [How To Spice Up Your Relationship with Games](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/how-to-spice-up-your-relationship-with-games/) - The best part of starting a new relationship is the chase and the seduction of discovering each other for the first time. Exploring the unknown is exciting. That's the reason a lot of people cheat, however, cheating destroys most relationships. There is another way to keep that same passion with your partner, even if you've
- [Are You Being Sexy or Creepy?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/are-you-being-sexy-or-creepy/) - If your intention is to have sex with your date at the end of the night your actions will most likely prevent you from getting anything. Do you know if you're being sexy or creepy? When a man allows his eyes to quickly glance up and down to check a woman out it can be
- [How to Change Your Partner](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/how-to-change-your-partner/) - How to change your partner is a very common question I get from clients. The truth is, people don’t change unless they want to. Most people don’t want to. Change is hard. Yet many of us exert too much of our precious time and energy trying to change a lover who doesn’t want to change.
- [The Importance of Spring Cleaning Your Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/spring-cleaning-your-relationship/) - With spring comes change and with that, sometimes relationships change. If the winter had you cooped up and feeling blasé you may be coming down with Spring fever. It’s time to check off the spring cleaning your relationship list and reevaluate your current situation. Maintaining a relationship takes constant nurturing and Spring is a great
- [How to Ask a Girl Out](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/how-to-ask-a-girl-out/) - Confidence is very attractive and more important than looks are to a woman. So when you want to ask a girl out be brave, make sure you have a plan of what you will do on your date, and don't be afraid of rejection. When a woman agrees to go out with a guy the
- [How to Get Him to Ask You Out](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/how-to-get-him-to-ask-you-out/) - Men are just as nervous and even as insecure as you are about making first contact with someone attractive. You can make it easier for him to come talk to you by being brave and flirting a little. Get him to ask you out by showing him you're interested in him. If you see a
- [Are You Giving Away Your Power?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/are-you-giving-away-your-power/) - "He who loves least has the power." Have you ever heard that expression? It refers to who controls the relationship. I googled that topic and as a relationship coach, I was sorry to see how many other bloggers think that having the power is a good thing. As if it’s some sort of competition or
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- [Are You A Serial Monogamist?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/are-you-a-serial-monogamist/) - Do you hate to be alone? Do you go from one relationship to the next and always find a replacement before you break up with anyone? That's called a serial monogamist, and it's not good for you. Many of my clients tell me they hate to be alone. They end up being with someone who
- [Don't Let Meeting Online Accelerate Sex](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/dont-let-meeting-online-accelerate-sex/) - Do you let meeting online accelerate sex? I’ve heard people say about online dating, “By the time you meet, it’s really just about whether you want to have sex or not.” I find a lot of truth in that. You’ve seen each other’s picture, exchanged e-mails, probably talked on the phone, and already know you
- [How to Get a Man to Marry You](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/how-to-get-a-man-to-marry-you/) - Are you waiting for your man to pop the question? How you behave will have a lot to do with if you get that proposal or not. How to get a man to marry you is by being smart and staying empowered. Unfortunately, too many women start to get impatient, and then get angry, and
- [Two Things You Should NEVER Say to a Woman](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/two-things-you-should-never-say-to-a-woman/) - If you want your woman to become calm and stop being emotional you need to be smart about how you go about asking. The two things you should never say to a woman are "calm down" and "relax". If you tell her to do either of those two things you'll mostly like get the opposite
- [When to Have The Talk About Commitment](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/when-to-have-the-talk-about-commitment/) - Having the talk about commitment and moving a relationship forward is never easy. Frequently it will end your relationship. So when is the best time to ask if you have a future together? If you have been together at least six months and you want to know where you stand. If you are at a
- [Are You Going Along to Get Along?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/are-you-going-along-to-get-along/) - Compromising is a great quality as long as you're not the only one doing it. If you are the only one always giving in, or just going along to avoid an argument then it's only a matter of time before you're unhappy. Going along to get along makes you a doormat for your partner. You
- [Attending a Wedding Together May End Your Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/attending-a-wedding-together-may-end-your-relationship/) - Going to a wedding with the love of your life can seem very romantic. But be careful, it just might ignite fear of commitment in your partner and ruin your relationship. If you're in a great relationship and one or both of you have been thinking, "This is the one" then attending a wedding together
- [Big Sisterly Advice to Teenage Girls About First Time Sex](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/big-sisterly-advice-to-teenage-girls-about-first-time-sex/) - Should I or shouldn't I? If you feel you don't have anyone to talk to about wanting to have first time sex you can talk to me. I'll help you make the right decision for you, with no judgments. Knowledge is the most important part of making any decision. One of my favorite clients was
- [The Question to Find Out How Good Your Relationship Is](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/the-question-to-find-out-how-good-your-relationship-is/) - Want to know how good your relationship is? Are you happy? Are you getting your needs met? Do you feel understood and valued? It doesn't matter how wonderful you think your partner is if he or she doesn't make you feel loved. I was recently talking to a client who kept telling me that her
- [Do Long Distance Relationships Work?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/do-long-distance-relationships-work/) - There are both good and bad elements to a long distance relationship. The really good is that it usually creates great communication. But the huge caution is that people with commitment issues are very comfortable in a long distance relationship, and they don't usually know that they have any issues. Be very careful about moving for another person
- [Do You Know When You're Being Manipulative?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/do-you-know-when-youre-being-manipulative/) - Do you frequently try to get your way, even after you have been told you can't? Is NO a hard word for you to accept? Are you aware that if you're trying to change someone's mind or behavior you're being manipulative? Accepting the word “no” is part of having healthy boundaries. When someone tells you
- [Taking Your Relationship For Granted Will End It](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/taking-your-relationship-for-granted-will-end-it/) - Taking your relationship for granted is easy to start doing when life gets busy. Unfortunately, too many people don't change their behavior until their partner has left them, and then it's too late. If you value your relationship, show your partner his or her needs matter to you before you push them to their last
- [Don't Decide What He's Thinking](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/dont-decide-what-hes-thinking/) - Trying to read into someone else's thoughts or feelings about you causes all sorts of problems in relationships, and it's not good for you. So please don't do it! Don't decide what he's thinking. If your guy is a little withdrawn and you choose to believe it's because he's losing interest in you and therefore
- [Am I Obligated to Have Sex?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/am-i-obligated-to-have-sex/) - A client of mine recently asked me if she was obligated to have sex with a man who was going to take her to dinner. When I replied, “Of course not!” she seemed surprised. She has previously had sex with him but they hadn’t seen each other in a while. She wanted to see him but
- [Unhappily Engaged?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/unhappily-engaged/) - Getting engaged can be really exciting. Most girls dream about that moment for a long time. So when he or she got down on one knee and asked that important question maybe you only said yes because you thought you were supposed to. Maybe you were put on the spot and didn't want to embarrass
- [How to Tell Someone You Don’t Want a Future Together](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/how-to-tell-someone-you-dont-want-a-future-together/) - If you know the person you're dating is crazy about you but you also know you don't want a future with her than the compassionate thing to do is end it and stop wasting her time. Hurting someone a little now is better than devastating them later. The old, “It’s not you is me” is
- [Don’t Let Your Best Conversation Be Your Last](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/issues/dont-let-your-best-conversation-be-your-last/) - Too many people are afraid to tell their partner their wants, needs, and desires because they don't want to destroy their relationship. But keeping them to yourself will cause other problems and usually end it anyway. Several of my male clients have all told me the same thing. "The best conversation I ever had with
- [Don't Test Your Partner](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/dont-test-your-partner/) - Playing games is manipulative and a way to avoid intimacy. Playing games in a relationship doesn’t work. Games create competition, and a winner and loser. Playing games is manipulative and a way to avoid intimacy. Some people think game playing does make things more interesting. It’s considered cool if you have “game”. But interesting doesn’t
- [You Are What You Think You Are](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/you-are-what-you-think-you-are/) - Finding a happy relationship is not really about what you look like. Or what a man or woman thinks of you. It’s not about what he or she wants, or likes or does. It’s all about you! It’s about what you think. What you feel. And what you choose.
- [Energy is Contagious](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/energy-is-contagious/) - I believe a person’s happiness level dictates his or her degree of patience and compassion. Think about it. When you’re content and life is going well for you, aren’t you much more tolerant than when things aren’t going exactly as you hoped? If your order takes a little too long,
- [How to Recognize a Commitmentphobic](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/how-to-recognize-a-commitmentphobic/) - What makes commitmentphobia so hard to recognize and even comprehend at first is that most people, both men and women, who say they’re looking for commitment or marriage are actually doing just that. Most of them want to be in a loving relationship with all of their heart, and many
- [Stop Making Excuses for Your Lover](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/stop-making-excuses-for-your-lover/) - People do what they want to do. If you always remind yourself of that, it really is quite simple. As caring beings, we usually like to give people the benefit of the doubt. We frequently conjure up pleasant scenarios to explain away undesirable behavior: “he’s really busy at work,” “she’s
- [When NOT to Text](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/when-not-to-text/) - Just because you have the ability to do something doesn’t mean you should do it. Just because you can send a message immediately doesn’t mean you deserve an immediate response. Electronic communication has changed relationships—and not for the better. For people with abandonment issues, and especially for those who struggle
- [Blame is a Junk Food Flag](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/blame-is-a-junk-food-flag/) - If your partner blames you for anything that doesn’t go right, no matter how small, she’s probably the defensive type who can’t take responsibility for her own actions. Blame is an easy to spot junk food flag (red flag) that can save you from future unhappiness if you heed it’s
- [How to Recognize True Love](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/how-to-recognize-true-love/) - Love can conquer all. It sounds so simple, right? Wrong! One of the hardest concepts to accept is that loving someone just isn’t enough. Too many men and women allow themselves to become doormats because they believe true love will triumph. They’re convinced that there will never be another person
- [How to Get Over a Breakup](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/how-to-get-over-a-breakup/) - Human beings are creatures of habit. Addicts are beings of extreme habit. When two people break up, what they initially have to deal with is breaking the habit of interacting with each other. It’s a habit to call to share things that happen, it’s a habit to have an automatic
- [How to Keep a New Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/how-to-keep-a-new-relationship/) - You have to live in the present. Put your attention on what is immediately in front of you and take it at face value. Your imagination is not your friend in relationships. You’ve probably already heard that you’re not supposed to start fantasizing about the wedding as soon as you
- [How to Be Happy Without a Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/how-to-be-happy-without-a-relationship/) - Loneliness – that feeling that comes when you’re alone and don’t want to be. The yearning to share your heart and life and body with another is the most human and natural of desires. But if it’s gnawing at you day and night it can be one of the most
- [How to Avoid Heartbreak](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/how-to-avoid-heartbreak/) - First and foremost, when your new sweetheart tells you something about himself, believe him! I can’t stress this enough. If he says, “I’m not ready for a serious relationship,” don’t think, “Well, maybe not with anyone else, but you have such a great connection with me.” The connection part may be true—but
- [How to Have Healthy Boundaries](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/how-to-have-healthy-boundaries/) - Having healthy boundaries means knowing your inner feelings, wants, needs, and limits, as well as fulfilling and enforcing them without hurting others. That means finding your true self and protecting it, no matter what, without needing anyone else’s approval. Enforcing healthy boundaries means not letting anyone else change what you know is right for
- [Timing of a New Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/timing-of-a-new-relationship/) - It’s exciting to be swept off your feet and have a whirlwind love affair. But if you feel like the relationship could have long-term potential, you have to take it slow and let true feelings evolve. Rushing into relationships is a frequent occurrence when unhealthy or no boundaries exist. “Love
- [Don’t Ask Don’t Tell When Dating](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/dont-ask-dont-tell-when-dating/) - When you first start dating someone it is actually healthy to keep dating other people. It will help keep you grounded and prevent you from focusing all your energy on one person…which frequently causes unrealistic expectations and pushes him or her away. When you have a great date with someone
- [Social Media and Dating Do Not Mix](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/social-media-and-dating-do-not-mix/) - I think there should be a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy in the early stages of dating; meaning that until you have an acknowledged commitment, you should both be dating other people, but not necessarily telling the other about it. However, posts, Tweets, and uploads frequently reveal sensitive information that
- [How to Have Kissable Breath](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/how-to-have-kissable-breath/) - A first kiss can be a memorable moment…unless you have bad breath. How you kiss can make or break your chances of making a great connection. A great kiss can, and usually does, sweep you off your feet. Conversely, a bad kiss can, and usually does, kill any budding attraction—pushing
- [Healthy Curiosity or Interrogation?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/healthy-curiosity-or-interrogation/) - It’s great if you want to get to know your date better, but make sure the conversation is evenly exchanged. No one likes being fed rapid-fire questions. It’s invasive and a huge turnoff. When you’re having any conversation you should always make sure to gage the interest level of the person you’re speaking
- [Are You Edgy or Just Rude?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/1446/) - Do you have an A-type personality that tends to take charge and sometimes be impatient? If so, you may be coming off as rude and turning off your date. Confidence is very attractive but it becomes control if you don’t give your date a choice. Such as, if you order food for her without asking her
- [Appropriate First Date Conversation?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/appropriate-first-date-conversation/) - You want your date to get to know you, right? But how soon should you reveal personal details? The first date should be fun. It should be about finding out if you enjoy each other’s company. If you dive into all your deep dark secrets (which you should not be wearing
- [Bathroom Humor on a First Date](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/bathroom-humor-on-a-first-date/) - A first date should be fun but it’s also about making a great first impression. If things are going well why take a chance at turning your date off by talking about bodily functions? Especially if you’re a girl. You may think you’re being “one of the guys” but most
- [How to Flirt on a First Date](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/how-to-flirt-on-a-first-date/) - If your date doesn’t know you’re interested he or she won’t be, and you won’t get a second date. Flirt with your body language: lean in close, lightly touch their hand or arm, and make lots of eye contact while smiling. Even if he or she wasn’t interested they may
- [Are You Finding it Hard to go on Without the Love of Your life?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/are-you-finding-it-hard-to-go-on-without-the-love-of-your-life/) - Finding the love of your life is an incredible high, especially if on some level you view him or her as above your typical dating league. So naturally, when it doesn’t work out or worse, it suddenly ends without warning, it may feel like you will never find anyone better
- [When to Let Go After a Breakup](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/when-to-let-go-after-a-breakup/) - If you are still contacting an ex-lover who has told you he or she doesn’t want to be with you anymore, you are attempting to force-feed him or her. She has made up her mind, and nothing you can do can change that. Any attempt at connection or communication will
- [Still Talking About Your Ex?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/still-talking-about-your-ex/) - After a painful breakup you have to go through the 5 stages of grief before you can move on and date again. If you’re not capable of being in the moment, enjoying new experiences without comparing everything to your ex, then you need to stay single to heal. You’re energy
- [Why Did My Relationship End When It Seemed So Good?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/why-did-my-relationship-end-when-it-seemed-so-good/) - You had an amazing connection, the passion was unbelievable, you had never had a relationship feel so good—then one day something unexpectedly changed, he or she was detached, unloving, and it was never again the same. Perhaps it ended abruptly (if you were lucky) or maybe it dragged on for
- [Are Your Dating Manners & Hygiene Keeping You Single?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/are-your-dating-manners-hygiene-keeping-you-single/) - I read in a man’s online profile that he was requesting women to shower before their date because he had been out with too many women who smelled bad. I was shocked. Theses simple grooming tips will make sure you’re not possibly turning your dates off with bad hygiene. Simple Grooming Tips
- [Is Superficial Conversation Keeping You Single?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/is-superficial-conversation-keeping-you-single/) - Do you know what to talk about on a first date? Do you even give any thought to it? If you’re having a lot of first dates but not many second or third dates you might want to stop just winging your conversation. You may be portraying yourself as superficial
- [Texting Etiquette In the Dating Phase](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/texting-etiquette-in-the-dating-phase/) - Texting has changed relationships—and not for the better. I’m not a fan of rules but I do feel there needs to be one big bold rule about text messaging: NEVER send a text message to communicate emotions or feelings! Good communication is the foundation of a happy relationship. Texting is
- [Subtle Red Flags You Should Look Out for When Dating](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/subtle-red-flags-you-should-look-out-for-when-dating/) - When a relationship doesn’t work out or ends badly, clients frequently ask me if there was something they should have seen in the beginning. The answer is almost always yes. But they were too caught up in the seduction to notice that it wasn’t a good fit. You have to
- [Catch-22 Of Being Single After 40](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/catch-22-of-being-single-after-40/) - After 40 the best way to meet someone is online. However, the FBI warns that’s the target age for dating scammers. Donna Barnes Dating has Online Dating Protector to prevent you from being scammed. Our team of highly trained online dating safety experts work 24 hours a day, 7 days a week
- [Dealing With the Anger of a Breakup](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/dealing-with-the-anger-of-a-breakup/) - Question: How do I get rid of the anger I have for past boyfriends who broke my heart? I am particularly angry at the men who said we would get married and without any warning ended the relationship and immediately started dating other women before our relationship was officially over,
- [The Truth About How to Get Your Ex Back](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/the-truth-about-how-to-get-your-ex-back/) - If you do an Internet search for “How to Get Your Ex Back” you’ll find pages of videos, downloadable answers (for a price), and even a few guarantees from non-accredited individuals who promise they have the solution you so desperately want. But this is a cold hard fact: PEOPLE HAVE
- [Why You’re Still Single](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/why-youre-still-single/) - Many times when I try to help a client or friend see that their relationship is not good for them, their response is that all relationships have problems. Their view is that someone else will just bring another set of difficulties or even the same ones. So they might as
- [What Do You Do When the ONE You Wanted Marries Someone Else?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/what-do-you-do-when-the-one-you-wanted-marries-someone-else/) - “He just met her… She’s supposed to be his transitional person; she’s not supposed to be the ONE. All this time I thought he didn’t want to get married. But, the truth is, he didn’t want to marry me.” Meg Ryan’s line from When Harry Met Sally speaks for many …
- [Forgive or Get Out](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/forgive-or-get-out/) - Don’t be a hater. If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. A major cause of breakups is not putting squabbles and resentments to rest. You need to forgive or get out! Nagging will never help you. Consistently throwing past events in your partner’s face can only
- [Why You Need to Stop Cyber Stalking Your Ex](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/why-you-need-to-stop-cyber-stalking-your-ex/) - A social media user has easy access to potential heartbreak. I’ve always believed that snooping is a bad idea. If you find something that upsets you in your snooping, you can’t ask about it without admitting that you were snooping. Snooping is a major violation of boundaries and is very
- [Getting Revenge on Your Ex](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/getting-revenge-on-your-ex/) - They say success is the best revenge but that’s only true if you’re not trying to get revenge. Anything you do to purposefully show off for your ex is always transparent, and typically makes you look desperate and it gives away your power. If you post Facebook, Twitter or Instagram …
- [When and How to Leave a Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/issues/when-and-how-to-leave-a-relationship/) - Love can conquer all. It sounds so simple, right? Wrong! One of the hardest concepts to accept is that loving someone just isn’t enough. Too many men and women allow themselves to become doormats because they believe true love will triumph. They’re convinced that there will never be another person
- [How to Stop Feeling Rejected](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/how-to-stop-feeling-rejected/) - Your perception is your reality. Your brain receives stimuli and information and forms an opinion. What makes relationships tricky is that no two brains perceive information the same way, not even in identical twins. So what seems very real to you may seem ridiculous to someone else. This doesn’t make …
- [When to First Say “I Love You”](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/when-to-first-say-i-love-you/) - When should you first say “I love you?” To some degree trust your instincts. But if you’re feeling it in the first week or so, realize that your feelings are probably lust or infatuation, not true love. If you say those three little words too quickly, a healthy partner will think
- [Instinct or Paranoia? How To Tell](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/instinct-or-paranoia-how-to-tell/) - How do you feel when your partner isn’t with you? Do you worry about who he or she may potentially meet, or might be spending time with? Do you frequently call or text to check-up? Do you need constant contact and reassurance of his or her feelings for you?
- [Are You Pining For Your Relationship’s Amazing Beginning?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/are-you-pining-for-your-relationships-amazing-beginning/) - Are you holding on to the fantasy that all the good things that happened at the beginning of your relationship truly define who your lover is? Are you hoping he or she will change and go back to being the ideal partner you initially thought he or she was?
- [The Truth About the First Two Months of a Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/the-truth-about-the-first-two-months-of-a-relationship/) - When you know you know! How many times have you heard someone say that? Many people will say they knew right away that he or she was “the one” as soon as they met their husband or wife. But in reality, you can only know that a person has great
- [Meeting For Drinks for a First Date](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/meeting-for-drinks-for-a-first-date/) - If he or she has more than two drinks on your first date that’s a bad sign. If he or she has four or more drinks in a short period of time, that’s a bright red flag. Especially if he or she holds it well (doesn’t behave like a drunk)
- [How to Know Who is RIGHT for You](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/how-to-know-who-is-right-for-you/) - You may think your attraction to a person depends on how hot, sweet, or successful he or she is. But the psychology behind our romantic choices says our attraction is based on our unresolved childhood wounds. Subconsciously, we choose partners with the same personality traits, and even physicality, of the
- [Complaints & Cynicism Are Negative Red Flags](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/complaints-cynicism-are-negative-red-flags/) - Energy is contagious. People want to surround themselves with positive people. If you complain a lot, are cynical, or are a hater you’re waving a major red flag to your date, and draining your date’s positive energy. You may not even recognize that you’re being negative. It’s common to complain
- [Falling in Love Too Fast Isn’t Good](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/falling-in-love-too-fast-isnt-good/) - Do you fall in love easily? When you first start dating someone do you go “all in” and decide this is the person for you? Regardless of any actual compatibility between you, do you feel grateful he or she is showing interest in you? If you feel like you’re falling
- [Breaking Your Own Heart by Falling in Love Too Easily](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/issues/breaking-your-own-heart-by-falling-in-love-too-easily/) - Are you feeling heartbroken over someone you only knew for three months or less? Did you fall in love within the first two weeks of meeting? Good news! That means you can get over him or her quickly too. I don’t mean to trivialize what you’re feeling but it’s much
- [Are You Being Attentive Enough on Dates?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/are-you-being-attentive-enough-on-dates/) - If you’re too shy or uncomfortable to hold eye contact with someone you like then your body language is saying the opposite of what you feel. Your date will assume you’re just not into them. First dates can be scary and cause people to behave in nervous ways that send
- [An Open Book is Not Sexy](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/dating-advice/an-open-book-is-not-sexy/) - A first date is supposed to be about enjoying each other’s company and finding out if you have chemistry and commonality…but also making sure you don’t do anything to turn your date off. Talking too much or revealing too much too soon is a turn-off. If your date ends up
- [How to Deal with Fear to Help Your Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/how-to-deal-with-fear-to-help-your-relationship/) - I believe fear is the root of all relationship problems. The most common fears are fear of abandonment, fear of intimacy, fear of commitment, fear of change, fear of rejection, fear of failure, and even fear of success. Everyone has fear on some level. We develop it in our childhood
- [Should We Get Back Together?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/should-we-get-back-together/) - Most of my clients come to me wanting their ex back. Sometimes it truly was a relationship worth saving, and I help reunite them and make it even better than it was before. However, more frequently I end up showing him or her how their relationship was dysfunction, and why
- [Should I Give an Ultimatum?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/should-i-give-an-ultimatum/) - We have all heard stories about someone who gave their partner an ultimatum and got what he or she wanted. But I’m sure you have also heard about someone who tried to give an ultimatum and it ended badly, maybe that was even you. So why is it that ultimatums
- [Stop Being Jealous to Save Your Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/men/stop-being-jealous-to-save-your-relationship/) - It’s been said that it’s not love that’s blind, but jealousy. When left unbridled, jealousy is an incredibly destructive emotion. But if you give jealousy vision, you can use it as an insightful tool to determine the quality of your relationship.
- [How to Stop Being Angry](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/how-to-stop-being-angry/) - When you’re angry do you vent to anyone who will listen? If you’re angry at your ex or anyone else do you fantasize about how you would like to tell them off or contemplate how to get revenge? If so, does it help you feel better? Or if you were
- [Should I Have Sex With My Ex?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/should-i-have-sex-with-my-ex/) - Sex can be an awful lot like comfort food. In the moment, it’s all about pleasure. It’s hot, fun, and yummy—sometimes even decadent—and the consequences are far from any present concern. But when it’s over, you might not be left feeling comfortable. You may even feel a lot worse.
- [Dating for Practice](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/dating-for-practice/) - Anything that you do frequently you’ll get better at. Practice makes perfect, right? It’s no different with dating. As you go out with a lot of different people you begin to stop getting nervous, you become less self-conscious, and it helps you stay grounded. All which then help you make
- [Do I Have Only One Soul Mate?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/do-i-have-only-one-soul-mate/) - Finding the love of your life, your one and only soul-mate, can feel like looking for a needle in a haystack. So when you deeply connect with someone it’s extremely hard to let go if it doesn’t work out. But if you decide to think that was your only chance
- [Should I Be Friends With My Ex?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/should-i-be-friends-with-my-ex/) - If you were to be completely honest with yourself you would know that you do not want to be friends with your ex. What you want is to keep him or her in your life because you hope to get back together. The thought of completely losing him or her
- [How to Turn a Hook Up Into a Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/how-to-turn-a-hook-up-into-a-relationship/) - Hooking up with someone you’re crazy about becomes lonely and frustrating if it doesn’t move forward and become a full relationship. Well, nothing changes if nothing changes; you need to stop having sex so you can get your other needs met. You teach people how to treat you. By just hooking up with him you’ve have been teaching him that
- [How to Breakup the RIGHT Way, NOT by Ghosting](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/issues/how-to-breakup-the-right-way-not-by-ghosting/) - Have you ever had your heart broken? I believe that is a defining question. Post-heartbreak, many of my clients experiencing it for the first time have had epiphanies. All of a sudden, they felt sorry for how they behaved or for things they had said to past lovers before they
- [Dating After Divorce](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/online-dating/dating-after-divorce/) - Yes, dating is very different now (if you were married for a long time) and I understand your desire to just jump into another relationship for the safety of it. However, going out on lots of dates is actually good for you — it will help you learn new things
- [Playing The Victim Won’t Help You](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/breakup-advice/playing-the-victim-wont-help-you/) - Blaming someone for the ways they hurt you or pointing out what they did wrong only makes you look bad. It certainly does not endear them to you, or get you what you want. The best way to get someone to do what you want is to inspire them to
- [What Being Late Says About You](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/women/what-being-late-says-about-you/) - Being late tells the person you’re making wait for you that you don’t care about his or her feelings, and that you don’t respect their time. It lowers their opinion of you. When you’re late for a date, especially if it’s a first date, you risk making your date angry, and you’re certainly
- [Best Way to Make Your Ex Leave You Alone](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/issues/best-way-to-make-your-ex-leave-you-alone/) - If you have broken up with someone who is not letting go and won’t stop contacting you, you need to send him/her a very clear message that you are done. As a breakup coach, most of my clients come to me to try to get their ex back. They are
- [Are You in Love or Infatuated?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/how-to-turn-a-hook-up-into-a-relationship-2/) - Love at first sight is a very romantic notion and can feel absolutely real when you meet someone amazing and feel intensely attracted to each other. But the saying should be connected at first sight because true love doesn’t begin until that “I can’t get enough of you” euphoria starts to fade.
- [Time to Stop Blaming Your Parents](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/lasting-relationship/time-to-stop-blaming-your-parents/) - Are your childhood issues ruining your relationships? That’s your fault, not your parents. You have the power to stop allowing your demons to sabotage your chance at true love. As an adult, you have free will to make whatever choices you want. Your parents may have created your feelings of fear,
- [Should I Invite Him to Meet My Parents?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/new-love/should-i-invite-him-to-meet-my-parents/) - HOLIDAY ADVICE “What are you doing for the holidays?” can be a loaded question in a new relationship. Should you spend it together? Should you be upset if you don’t? How soon is too soon to introduce him to your family? First, you should evaluate your relationship. Are you serious

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- [Breakup Recovery Action Plan](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/) - Welcome to MyBreakup Recovery Action PlanPUSH THE PAUSE BUTTONA great tool you can learn to apply when you are feeling anxious, or starting to panic over being abandoned by your ex, is to just do nothing. Tell yourself to, "Push the pause button!", and don’t respond or react to anything. Instead, take some long, deep
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- [I'll Always Be Here For You](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-5-dating-again/ill-always-be-here-for-you/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 101STEP 5 - DATING AGAIN I’ll Always Be Here For YouPrevious I hope you feel better than you did 90 days ago! Any time, you can still talk to me one-on-one. Just use this special discount sign up form below to book a Virtual Coaching Session (up to 90-minutes) with me for only $225,
- [Dating Someone With Young Kids](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/dating-someone-with-young-kids/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 55STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY Dating Someone With Young KidsPrevious How to handle your new partner's kids.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected course is invalid.
- [Dating As A Single Parent](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/dating-as-a-single-parent/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 54STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY Dating As A Single ParentPrevious Your kids are not your friends, don't confide in them about your dates.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet,
- [Sex Makes You Stupid](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/sex-makes-you-stupid/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 53STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY Sex Makes You StupidPrevious Keep your head on straight when you find you have great chemistry.Your choices about sex have a profound effect on your self-esteem and your relationships. Sex can be wonderful, empowering, and healthy. Sex can be considered making love. Sex can also be destructive, unhealthy,
- [It Should Be Easy](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/it-should-be-easy/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 52STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY It Should Be EasyPrevious You'll know you've met the right person when things are just easy.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your
- [I Thought We Connected??](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/i-thought-we-connected/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 51STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY I Thought We Connected??Previous You had a great first date and you thought it was the beginning of something great. But...CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select
- [First Dates](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/first-dates/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 50STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY First DatesPrevious Dating is supposed to be fun. The more you do it, the more comfortable it will become.Do you get nervous on dates? Be careful, you may be sending the wrong message to your date — that you’re not interested.Keep in mind that your date is probably nervous too.
- [Using A Dating App](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/using-a-dating-app/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 49STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY Using A Dating AppPrevious I made this video for my Breakup Recovery course, but it has great information about putting yourself on an app.Great pictures are a requirement! There is a cool website to help you judge the quality of your pictures: https://www.photofeeler.comCommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element
- [Looks Can Be Deceiving](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/looks-can-be-deceiving/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 48STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY Looks Can Be DeceivingPrevious Don't judge a book by its cover is a wise saying to live by — always.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your
- [Where To Meet Someone](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/where-to-meet-someone/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 47STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY Where To Meet SomeonePrevious The good old-fashioned way to meet someone is by being friendly and interacting with people everywhere you go. The older you get, the more that becomes the best option. But in addition, sign up for FREE matchmaking. You have nothing to lose.Matchmaking is the
- [Sexually Abused?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/sexually-abused/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 46STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY Sexually Abused?Previous If you or a person you love was ever sexually abused, this video was made for you.I highly recommend this book, The Betrayal Bond, if you've endured any kind of abuse - Sexual, Physical, and/or Emotional. I promise it will help!Get on AMAZON: https://amzn.to/4o7ZVJVCommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson
- [Sex With My Ex?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/sex-with-my-ex/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 45STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY Sex With My Ex?Previous Be careful what you wish for. Think about the consequences BEFORE you make things worse for yourself.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select
- [Obsession Or True Love?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/obsession-or-true-love/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 44STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY Obsession Or True Love?Previous My ex was my soulmate, the love of my life, are you telling me that's not true love?How to Recognize a PlayerThe title “player” usually refers to men, but women can be players too. A player is a master of manipulation who only cares
- [What if You Are a Rebound?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/what-if-you-are-a-rebound/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 43STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY What if You Are a Rebound?Previous 1. Protect your heart. If you are the first person to start dating someone who has recently ended a significant relationship, be aware that your relationship will probably be short-lived. “Recent” means within a few months, or up to a year if
- [Rebounds](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/rebounds/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 42STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY ReboundsPrevious Meaningless rebounds can be helpful if you're trying to get over someone, but can also be hurtful.1. Be honest with yourself. After a breakup, your feelings are usually confused. Be honest with yourself about what your situation truly is. Decide if the person you decide to be with
- [Are My Choices About Sex Hurting Me? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/are-my-choices-about-sex-hurting-me-quiz/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 41STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY Are My Choices About Sex Hurting Me? QuizPrevious Take the Quiz to learn how your choices are effecting you.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course
- [My Choices About Sex](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/my-choices-about-sex/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 40STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY My Choices About SexPrevious Your choices about sex have a profound effect on your self-esteem and your relationships. Sex can be wonderful, empowering, and healthy. Sex can be considered making love. Sex can also be destructive, unhealthy, and obsessive. It can keep you addicted to an unhealthy situation.
- [Action Step: Ask Your Friends & Family](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/action-step-ask-your-friends-family/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 39STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY Action Step: Ask Your Friends & FamilyPrevious Ask For An Honest OpinionFrequently, our friends and family keep their true opinions about our relationships to themselves because they don't want to upset us or cause problems. But if you can take your ego out of it and promise not
- [Is My Ex Worth Getting Back? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/is-my-ex-worth-getting-back-quiz/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 38STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY Is My Ex Worth Getting Back? QuizPrevious Take the QUIZ to determine if you should even want your ex back.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your
- [It's Not All Your Fault](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/its-not-all-your-fault/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 37STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY It’s Not All Your FaultPrevious It always takes two to make a relationship last.Assigning proper blame is essential in starting to feel better. CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either
- [The Moment That Changed My Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/the-moment-that-changed-my-relationship/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 36STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY The Moment That Changed My RelationshipPrevious Our relationship was amazing until....CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected course is invalid. Please
- [It's Complicated](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/its-complicated/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 35STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY It’s ComplicatedPrevious All your relationships have one thing in common — YOU.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected course is invalid.
- [It's A Huge Red Flag If You Push Too Hard](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/its-a-huge-red-flag-if-you-push-too-hard/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 34STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY It’s A Huge Red Flag If You Push Too HardPrevious Make sure you're not the one displaying red flag behavior.RED FLAG LISTINTERRUPTS & DOESN'T LISTENIS CRITICAL OR NEGATIVEBLAMES OTHERSSHOWS JEALOUSY EASILYWANTS TO CONTROL - YOU DON'T GET A CHOICEDOESN'T RESPECT YOUR BOUNDARIES / NO MANNERSCommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and
- [Red Flags](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/red-flags/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 33STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY Red FlagsPrevious Paying attention to subtle red flags is the key to avoiding future heartache. I know it's hard to decide to stop seeing someone if you really like them. However, it's much easier to get over someone you're just starting to get to know, than to get
- [What Are My Deal-Breakers & Requirements?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/what-are-my-deal-breakers-requirements/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 32STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY What Are My Deal-Breakers & Requirements?Previous It's time to be specific about who is right for you.These three questions are to prompt ideas about what specifically is a match for you.1. When it comes to money, I want a partner who...A.) is frugal and saves for the future.B.)
- [Will I Choose the Right Partner? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/will-i-choose-the-right-partner-quiz/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 31STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY Will I Choose the Right Partner? QuizPrevious This quiz and the following exercise were designed to help you decide what is best for you in a partner. CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in
- [My Deal-Breakers](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/my-deal-breakers/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 30STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY My Deal-BreakersPrevious Who is right for you depends on who you are, what your needs and desires are, and what turns you on. In order to be able to find (and recognize) your healthy partner, you have to know exactly what qualities that person will possess.The following quiz
- [STEP 2 - CHOOSING WISELY](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-2-choosing-wisely/) - My Best Me Action Plan STEP 2 – CHOOSING WISELY26 SECTIONSStart ModuleAttraction and love are only a small part of how you should choose a partner. This step will help you know who is truly right for you.Action Steps:Date for practiceDon't Ignore red flags!Don't Ask don't tellSlow and steadyBelieve what you're toldDon't Make excusesIt's Easy When It's
- [Help For Childhood Abuse & Other Trauma](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/help-for-childhood-abuse-other-trauma/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 29STEP 1 - FIXING ME Help For Childhood Abuse & Other TraumaPrevious These are the best books I've read! They are VERY helpful to heal feeling broken. Click the book's cover to go to it's Amazon page.View onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONCommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a
- [Books To Help You Heal & Grow](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/books-to-help-you-heal-grow/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 28STEP 1 - FIXING ME Books To Help You Heal & GrowPrevious Some of my favorite reads to further your growth.Click the book's cover to go to it's Amazon page.View onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONCommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of
- [Knowledge to Feel Better](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/knowledge-to-feel-better/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 27STEP 1 - FIXING ME Knowledge to Feel BetterPrevious Knowledge is what makes me feel better when I'm struggling through a breakup. Here are some of my favorite reads to further your growth.The best book that I read to get me through my first breakup is called Men Who Can't Love: How to
- [S-M-A-R-T Goals](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/s-m-a-r-t-goals/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 26STEP 1 - FIXING ME S-M-A-R-T GoalsPrevious Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time-bound. Using your list of incompletes and tolerations from the previous section, create SMART goals, taking great care not to overwhelm yourself.Below is the whole life model, which consists of 7 distinct areas that make up most people’s lives. When all areas are reviewed
- [Incompletes And Tolerations](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/incompletes-and-tolerations/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 25STEP 1 - FIXING ME Incompletes And TolerationsPrevious What Are You Tolerating or Haven't Finished Yet?Tolerations – Anything that you “put up with” that drains your energy, creates confusion or gets in your way. Examples: A leaky faucet, noisy neighbor, cluttered home, or consistent heartburn when you eat.Incompletes – Is something or someone that you
- [Measurable Goals](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/measurable-goals/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 24STEP 1 - FIXING ME Measurable GoalsPrevious You will create a vision, a series of measurable goals, and a personal development plan that will incorporate the whole life model and from this, you will see positive results.Below is the whole life model, which consists of 7 distinct areas that make up most people’s lives.
- [What Is My Love Language?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/what-is-my-love-language/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 23STEP 1 - FIXING ME What Is My Love Language?Previous Dr. Gary Chapman created 5 Love Languages to help you understand yourself and others better, to help you relate to each other, and create closer emotional intimacy. Start with recognizing what the Love Languages are and what you most identify with from how
- [Choose Happiness](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/choose-happiness/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 22STEP 1 - FIXING ME Choose HappinessPrevious Happiness is a choice and to be ready to date again you need to choose happiness first. Start making it a habit to check in with yourself about what you are feeling. Every day, acknowledge something that you are grateful for.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List
- [Release Your Guilt](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/release-your-guilt/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 21STEP 1 - FIXING ME Release Your GuiltPrevious Guilt can be really destructive if you don't deal with it the right way. Guilt is not just about an ex, it can be a parent or sibling, or anyone at all you feel guilty about how you treated them.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List
- [What Are My Patterns?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/what-are-my-patterns/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 20STEP 1 - FIXING ME What Are My Patterns?Previous The best way to discover your obstacles is by taking an honest look at whom you are attracted to and whom you choose as your romantic partners.You may think your attraction depends on how hot, sweet, or successful your partner is. But the psychology
- [What I Did Wrong With My Ex](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/what-i-did-wrong-with-my-ex/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 19STEP 1 - FIXING ME What I Did Wrong With My ExPrevious This is your opportunity to fix the things you wish you could, or at least stop beating yourself up about them by preparing not to repeat them in the future. Keeping secrets does more damage than you think.ACTION: Divide the page into
- [Journal To Feel Better](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/journal-to-feel-better/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 18STEP 1 - FIXING ME Journal To Feel BetterPrevious There is something magical about using a pen to write your thoughts down on paper...you release them.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select
- [Take A Deeper Look](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/take-a-deeper-look/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 17STEP 1 - FIXING ME Take A Deeper LookPrevious How your list can help you...If your list is shortIf you don’t have many things on the list of things you have done for your partner or partners. That could indicate too much self-importance and selfishness, which is a manifestation of low self-esteem. Frequently
- [What I Did Right With My Exes](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/what-i-did-right-with-my-exes/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 16STEP 1 - FIXING ME What I Did Right With My ExesPrevious If you’re the kind of person who finds it hard to hear nice things about yourself, or if you’re a people-pleaser who is always doing nice things for others, then this exercise will be important for you.Now is the time to
- [My Baggage](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/my-baggage/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 15STEP 1 - FIXING ME My BaggagePrevious To have a good relationship, you need to know everything you do to contribute, whether good, bad, or ugly.As you go from relationship to relationship, or even while you stay in the same one for a long time, you amass memories and behaviors. Each partner triggers
- [Visualize To Feel Better, Not Worse](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/visualize-to-feel-better-not-worse/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 14STEP 1 - FIXING ME Visualize To Feel Better, Not WorsePrevious Thoughts are incredibly powerful. You can choose what you think, so chose to think positively and don't think about things that hurt you.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons
- [Rationalize Your Thinking](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/rationalize-your-thinking/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 13STEP 1 - FIXING ME Rationalize Your ThinkingPrevious The key to being happy is to be flexible and allow yourself to go with the flow so to speak.Letting go of rigid and irrational beliefs will help you feel less stressed and heartbroken. Specifically, if you let go of thinking only your ex can
- [Develop An Inner Cheerleader](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/develop-an-inner-cheerleader/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 12STEP 1 - FIXING ME Develop An Inner CheerleaderPrevious Silence Your Inner CriticSociety loves to tear people down—before social media it was the tabloids, but only if you were "somebody". Now everyone is a target and bullying is easier than ever because you can remain anonymous. Unfortunately, that's because people are literally trying
- [Someone New For You](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/someone-new-for-you/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 11STEP 1 - FIXING ME Someone New For YouPrevious Are your thoughts keeping you single?CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected course is invalid. Please fix
- [STEP 1 - FIXING ME](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/) - My Best Me Action Plan STEP 1 – FIXING ME29 SECTIONSStart ModuleChange is a process. Learning what you need to change is the first step to become the best you.Looking at your past, processing it, then letting it go will help you move forward feeling empowered and unstoppable.When you enforce healthy boundaries and make the right choices,
- [Insecurity Is Created By You](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/insecurity-is-created-by-you/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 10STEP 1 - FIXING ME Insecurity Is Created By YouPrevious Your thoughts will make you insecure or empowered. The choice is up to you!Symptoms of Abandonment IssuesReaching OutYou habitually reach out to the person you’re in a relationship with. You become needy for communication and usually end up doing what you fear most
- [Feeling Abandoned](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/feeling-abandoned/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 9STEP 1 - FIXING ME Feeling AbandonedPrevious Most people fear abandonment on some level, whether they recognize it or not.Like love addiction, the fear of abandonment also comes from childhood experiences. It develops not only as a result of obvious abandonment, such as a parent leaving or dying, but also from growing up
- [Writing Affirmations To Raise Your Self-Esteem](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/writing-affirmations-to-raise-your-self-esteem/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 8STEP 1 - FIXING ME Writing Affirmations To Raise Your Self-EsteemPrevious The written word is a very powerful tool to change our brains. By writing and reading affirmations simultaneously, they are twice as effective at changing our thinking.1. Hand-write your affirmation ten to twenty times in succession on a piece of paper. Use your name,
- [Self-Esteem](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/self-esteem/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 7STEP 1 - FIXING ME Self-EsteemPrevious Love Yourself FirstI’m always amazed at how many of my clients are genuinely touched when I compliment their accomplishments, usually because nobody else ever has. For some, it’s even uncomfortable for them to hear me say “I’m proud of you” or to suggest they be proud of
- [Identify Your True Self](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/identify-your-true-self/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 6STEP 1 - FIXING ME Identify Your True SelfPrevious YOUR TRUE SELF = Your inner thoughts and emotionsYOUR INNER THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS =feelings, beliefs, values, likes, dislikes, wants, needs, intuitions, and goalsBegin by recognizing that you have a right to possess boundaries. All the people in your life must respect your boundaries, or
- [Am I Giving Away My Power? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/am-i-giving-away-my-power-quiz/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 5STEP 1 - FIXING ME Am I Giving Away My Power? QuizPrevious Take the QUIZ to determine if you're giving away your power.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet,
- [How to Develop Healthy Boundaries](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/how-to-develop-healthy-boundaries/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 4STEP 1 - FIXING ME How to Develop Healthy BoundariesPrevious You can't blame someone else for violating your boundaries. It's up to you to enforce your boundaries. You have to teach people how to treat you.Begin by recognizing that you have a right to possess boundaries. All the people in your life must
- [Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/signs-of-unhealthy-boundaries/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 3STEP 1 - FIXING ME Signs of Unhealthy BoundariesPrevious As you read each of the below behaviors, note in your journal everything that describes you.You move too fast. Rushing into relationships is a frequent occurrence when unhealthy or no boundaries exist. “Love at first sight” is only an expression. It should be “intense attraction
- [Missing Boundaries Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/missing-boundaries-quiz/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 2STEP 1 - FIXING ME Missing Boundaries QuizPrevious Take the QUIZ to determine if you need to strengthen, or loosen your Boundaries.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or
- [Boundaries](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-1-fixing-me/boundaries/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 1STEP 1 - FIXING ME BoundariesPrevious You teach people how to treat you - whether you're aware of that or not.Having healthy boundaries means knowing your inner feelings, wants, needs, and limits, as well as fulfilling and enforcing them without hurting others. That means finding your true self and protecting it, no matter
- [How Well Do I Communicate? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/how-well-do-i-communicate-quiz/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 56STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST How Well Do I Communicate? QuizPrevious These Quiz questions say "your partner" but if you don't currently have a partner substitute your "ex" for "partner".CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course.
- [Communication Skills](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/communication-skills/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 57STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Communication SkillsPrevious Communicating effectively is largely about how well you express your feelings.Your delivery makes all the difference. Poor communication using drama and manipulation will destroy love and leave you lonely. With the right tools and a little practice, true love can blossom.Some of us are naturally
- [Drama-Free Communication](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/drama-free-communication/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 58STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Drama-Free CommunicationPrevious The first step in creating a drama-free relationship is taking responsibility for your own behavior, thoughts, and feelings. Checklist for Good CommunicationDon’t blame others for what they do; you need to take responsibility for how you choose to respond.Never make demands. You have to make
- [How to Actively Listen](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/how-to-actively-listen/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 59STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST How to Actively ListenPrevious The best way to make your partner feel cared about is to actively listen. 1) Extend an Invitation to Help You Learn About Yourself.Turn off the TV, computer, music, cell phone, and anything else that could interrupt or distract you.Tell the person you're asking
- [Am I Emotionally Unavailable? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/am-i-emotionally-unavailable-quiz/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 60STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Am I Emotionally Unavailable? QuizPrevious CHECK ALL THAT APPLYCommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected course is invalid. Please fix
- [Emotional Intimacy](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/emotional-intimacy/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 61STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Emotional IntimacyPrevious So what is emotional intimacy? Real intimacy takes time to establish. It involves trust and mutually feeling safe to be vulnerable, allowing healthy self-disclosure without fearing being betrayed or misunderstood. It involves respect, tolerance, and always sharing how you feel—no secrets. In a truly intimate
- [Actions To Become More Emotionally Available](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/actions-to-become-more-emotionally-available/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 62STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Actions To Become More Emotionally AvailablePrevious To be emotionally available is to be willing to offer your whole self and to explore and accept your partner’s whole self. If your heart rate is starting to go up, and you’re feeling uncomfortable at just the thought of doing
- [How To Argue Effectively](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/how-to-argue-effectively/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 63STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST How To Argue EffectivelyPrevious Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?Ask yourself that the next time you find yourself digging in your heels in an argument. What are you really trying to get? Too many of us get caught up in
- [Rules For A Healthy Argument](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/rules-for-a-healthy-argument/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 64STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Rules For A Healthy ArgumentPrevious 1. When you feel enraged, don't say anything!Take a few deep breaths and slowly count to five. It will give the more reasoning part of your brain time to kick in. Listen to it! If you can’t control your temper, then tell your
- [How Well Does My Partner Communicate? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/how-well-does-my-partner-communicate-quiz/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 69STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST How Well Does My Partner Communicate? QuizPrevious Take the QUIZ to determine if your partner is a good enough communicator.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select
- [The Cycle Of Abuse](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/the-cycle-of-abuse/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 70STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST The Cycle Of AbusePrevious The first time you fought it seemed so out of left field... One of the hardest things to learn is that loving someone with all of your heart is not a good enough reason to stay. You have to love yourself most.Finding a
- [Toxic Behavior](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/toxic-behavior/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 68STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Toxic BehaviorPrevious Were you happy and pleasant to be around until you fell in love with your ex? Did your ex make you feel insecure? Were you defensive about your ex? Were you not really happy anymore?Relationships can be toxic without being physically abusive. Many people consider
- [How To Handle Commitment Issues](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/how-to-handle-commitment-issues/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 67STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST How To Handle Commitment IssuesPrevious As you start to recognize potential symptoms of commitmentphobia, you have to stay true to yourself. Maintain your independence, enforce healthy boundaries, and take care of your own needs. Don’t allow your partner to make you insecure and start doubting yourself. Don’t give
- [Symptoms Of Commitment Issues](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/symptoms-of-commitment-issues/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 66STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Symptoms Of Commitment IssuesPrevious Both women and men struggle with commitment issues and exhibit the same symptoms. Change the pronouns below to pertain to you. As you read over this list, look for any behavior that you may exhibit too.Moving too fastSubconsciously, he knows it won’t last,
- [Commitment Issues](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/commitment-issues/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 65STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Commitment IssuesPrevious If your previous partners have come and gone at a rapid pace, or most of your relationships only lasted around 6 months, you probably have passive commitment issues, which will cause you to choose people with active commitment issues. What you need to remember is
- [Am I Addicted To Love?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/am-i-addicted-to-love/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 79STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Am I Addicted To Love?Previous A love addict has an insatiable desire to be loved. If you can answer yes to most or all of the questions below, you are a love addict.When you feel attracted to a person, do you immediately idealize that person to be
- [Is Your Relationship Unbalanced?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/is-your-relationship-unbalanced/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 71STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Is Your Relationship Unbalanced?Previous Both people need to be whole, and equally supportive of each other.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or
- [A True Partner?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/a-true-partner/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 72STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST A True Partner?Previous Relationships are supposed to be a true partnership with two complete individuals choosing to be with each other...and enjoy making each other happy.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected
- [Narcissist, Sociopath, or BPD?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/narcissist-sociopath-or-bpd/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 73STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Narcissist, Sociopath, or BPD?Previous Narcissists, Sociopaths, and people with Borderline Personality Disorder cannot change...and are very dangerous to be in a relationship with.Narcissism is extreme self-absorption. A narcissist doesn’t feel empathy, so it is impossible for a narcissist to achieve real intimacy with anyone. Outward appearances are
- [Is My Partner A Narcissist? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/is-my-partner-a-narcissist-quiz/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 74STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Is My Partner A Narcissist? QuizPrevious Take the QUIZ to determine if your ex is a Narcissist or maybe just exhibits some Narcissistic behavior.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You
- [Signs You're Dating A Sociopath](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/signs-youre-dating-a-sociopath/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 75STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Signs You’re Dating A SociopathPrevious There is a specific kind of toxic relationship that is hard to initially recognize. If you are unfortunate enough to fall in love with a sociopath, you'll most definitely begin to feel like you're becoming ill—and he or she is making you
- [Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/borderline-personality-disorder-bpd/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 76STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)Previous Falling in love with someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) is like riding a roller coaster — for both of you. Those with BPD desperately fear abandonment and crave intimacy. They will seek out a deeply intimate connection. They usually lack boundaries and
- [Dating An Addict?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/dating-an-addict/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 77STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Dating An Addict?Previous When you first meet an alcoholic, you may not see his or her drinking as a problem.Having a positive attitude and being a supportive partner is something I highly recommend—unless you’re dating an addict. When you first meet an alcoholic, you may not see
- [Am I Dating An Addict? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/am-i-dating-an-addict-quiz/) - My Best Me Action Plan Section 78STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST Am I Dating An Addict? QuizPrevious Take the QUIZ to determine if you're dating an Addict.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or
- [STEP 3 - MAKING IT LAST](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/my-best-me/step-3-making-it-last/) - My Best Me Action Plan STEP 3 – MAKING IT LAST24 SECTIONSStart ModuleOnce you have found someone special, this step will give you tools and tips to help you create a true partnership that will last forever.Change is a ProcessYou amass memories and behaviors for every relationship in your life. Each romantic partner triggers your past emotions
- [Commitment Issues](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-5-dating-again/commitment-issues/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 98STEP 5 - DATING AGAIN Commitment IssuesPrevious If your previous partners have come and gone at a rapid pace, or most of your relationships only lasted around 6 months, you probably have passive commitment issues, which will cause you to choose people with active commitment issues. What you need to remember is that a
- [STEP 4 - CLOSURE](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-4-closure/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Step 4 – CLOSURE1 SECTIONSStart ModuleBy the time you get to this step, you should be feeling much better about yourself and have a clear decision about what you need to do — either let go of your ex so you can find someone better, or prepare to possibly start over with your
- [STEP 5 - DATING AGAIN](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-5-dating-again/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan STEP 5 – DATING AGAIN0 SECTIONSStart ModuleAre you ready to start dating again?Who is right for you depends on who you are, what your needs and desires are, and what turns you on. In order to be able to find (and recognize) your healthy partner, you have to know exactly what qualities that
- [What Are My Patterns?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-4-closure/what-are-my-patterns/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 84Step 4 - CLOSURE What Are My Patterns?Previous The best way to discover your obstacles is by taking an honest look at whom you are attracted to and whom you choose as your romantic partners.You may think your attraction depends on how hot, sweet, or successful your partner is. But the psychology behind our
- [Reunite Right](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-4-closure/reunite-right/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 85Step 4 - CLOSURE Reunite RightPrevious If you do get a second chance you want to make sure it lasts this time.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your
- [Choose Happiness](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-4-closure/choose-happiness/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 86Step 4 - CLOSURE Choose HappinessPrevious Happiness is a choice and to be ready to date again you need to choose happiness first.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or
- [Dates That Haunt You](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-4-closure/dates-that-haunt-you/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 87Step 4 - CLOSURE Dates That Haunt YouPrevious Your anniversary, your ex's birthday, the date you met, etc can be difficult and set you back a bit if you dwell on them.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course.
- [Making Amends](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-4-closure/making-amends/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 88Step 4 - CLOSURE Making AmendsPrevious Making amends is about making up for any pain you have caused, it's not about manipulating the situation in an attempt to get your ex back.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course.
- [Release Your Guilt](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-4-closure/release-your-guilt/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 89Step 4 - CLOSURE Release Your GuiltPrevious Guilt can be really destructive if you don't deal with it the right way. Guilt is not just about an ex, it can be a parent or sibling, or anyone at all you feel guilty about how you treated them.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is
- [Same Goal But Different Paths](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-4-closure/same-goal-but-different-paths/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 90STEP 4 - CLOSURE Same Goal But Different PathsPrevious Commonality means aligning your daily lives to achieve the same goals. CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected course
- [Where To Meet Someone](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-5-dating-again/where-to-meet-someone/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 91STEP 5 - DATING AGAIN Where To Meet SomeonePrevious The good old-fashioned way to meet someone is by being friendly and interacting with people everywhere you go. The older you get, the more that becomes the best option. But in addition, sign up for FREE matchmaking. You have nothing to lose.Matchmaking is the antidote
- [Get Online, But...](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-5-dating-again/get-online-but/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 92STEP 5 - DATING AGAIN Get Online, But…Previous I highly recommend getting on an APP to look around, but I just want to caution you that you could see your ex.Great pictures are a requirement! There is a cool website to help you judge the quality of your pictures: https://www.photofeeler.comCommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List
- [Looks Can Be Deceiving](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-5-dating-again/looks-can-be-deceiving/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 93STEP 5 - DATING AGAIN Looks Can Be DeceivingPrevious Don't judge a book by its cover is a wise saying to live by — always.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course
- [It Should Be Easy](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-5-dating-again/it-should-be-easy/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 94STEP 5 - DATING AGAIN It Should Be EasyPrevious You'll know you've met the right person when things are just easy.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected
- [Dating As A Single Parent](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-5-dating-again/dating-as-a-single-parent/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 95STEP 5 - DATING AGAIN Dating As A Single ParentPrevious Your kids are not your friends, don't confide in them about your dates.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or
- [Symptoms Of Commitment Issues](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-5-dating-again/symptoms-of-commitment-issues/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 97STEP 5 - DATING AGAIN Symptoms Of Commitment IssuesPrevious Both women and men struggle with commitment issues and exhibit the same symptoms. Change the pronouns below to pertain to you. As you read over this list, look for any behavior that you may exhibit too.Moving too fastSubconsciously, he knows it won’t last, so he
- [How To Handle Commitment Issues](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-5-dating-again/how-to-handle-commitment-issues/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 98STEP 5 - DATING AGAIN How To Handle Commitment IssuesPrevious As you start to recognize potential symptoms of commitmentphobia, you have to stay true to yourself. Maintain your independence, enforce healthy boundaries, and take care of your own needs. Don’t allow your partner to make you insecure and start doubting yourself. Don’t give him or
- [Let's Help Each Other and Help Others](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-5-dating-again/lets-help-each-other-and-help-others/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 100STEP 5 - DATING AGAIN Let’s Help Each Other and Help OthersPrevious Join my Affiliate Program to Earn 40%Now that you've finished, you can help me help others and make some money for yourself by joining my Affiliate Program. You can get 40% commission on every sale you help me make.Click this link to
- [Will I Choose the Right Partner? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-5-dating-again/will-i-choose-the-right-partner-quiz/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 92STEP 5 - DATING AGAIN Will I Choose the Right Partner? QuizPrevious This quiz and the following exercise were designed to help you decide what is best for you in a partner. CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected
- [What Are My Deal-Breakers & Requirements?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-5-dating-again/what-are-my-deal-breakers-requirements/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 93STEP 5 - DATING AGAIN What Are My Deal-Breakers & Requirements?Previous It's time to be specific about who is right for you.These three questions are to prompt ideas about what specifically is a match for you.1. When it comes to money, I want a partner who...A.) is frugal and saves for the future.B.) is
- [Knowledge to Feel Better](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/knowledge-to-feel-better/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 81STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself KnowledgePrevious Knowledge is what makes me feel better when I'm struggling through a breakup. Here are some of my favorite reads to further your growth.The best book that I read to get me through my first breakup is called Men Who Can't Love: How
- [Are My Choices About Sex Hurting Me? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/are-my-choices-about-sex-hurting-me-quiz/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 64STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Are My Choices About Sex Hurting Me? QuizPrevious Take the Quiz to learn how your choices are effecting you.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either
- [How Well Do I Communicate? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/how-well-do-i-communicate-quiz/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 69STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself How Well Do I Communicate?Previous These Quiz questions say "your partner" but if you don't currently have a partner substitute your "ex" for "partner".CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in
- [Develop An Inner Cheerleader](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/develop-an-inner-cheerleader/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 57STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Develop An Inner CheerleaderPrevious Silence Your Inner CriticSociety loves to tear people down—before social media it was the tabloids, but only if you were "somebody". Now everyone is a target and bullying is easier than ever because you can remain anonymous. Unfortunately, that's because
- [Rationalize Your Thinking](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/rationalize-your-thinking/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 58STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Rationalize Your ThinkingPrevious The key to being happy is to be flexible and allow yourself to go with the flow so to speak.Letting go of rigid and irrational beliefs will help you feel less stressed and heartbroken. Specifically, if you let go of thinking
- [My Baggage](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/my-baggage/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 59STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself My BaggagePrevious To have a good relationship, you need to know everything you do to contribute, whether good, bad, or ugly.As you go from relationship to relationship, or even while you stay in the same one for a long time, you amass memories and
- [What I Did Right With My Ex](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/what-i-did-right-with-my-ex/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 60STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself What I Did Right With My ExPrevious If you’re the kind of person who finds it hard to hear nice things about yourself, or if you’re a people-pleaser who is always doing nice things for others, then this exercise will be important for you.Now
- [Take A Deeper Look](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/take-a-deeper-look/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 61STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Take A Deeper LookPrevious How your list can help you...If your list is shortIf you don’t have many things on the list of things you have done for your partner or partners. That could indicate too much self-importance and selfishness, which is a manifestation
- [My Choices About Sex](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/my-choices-about-sex/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 63STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself My Choices About SexPrevious Your choices about sex have a profound effect on your self-esteem and your relationships. Sex can be wonderful, empowering, and healthy. Sex can be considered making love. Sex can also be destructive, unhealthy, and obsessive. It can keep you addicted
- [Rebounds](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/rebounds/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 65STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself ReboundsPrevious Meaningless rebounds can be helpful if you're trying to get over someone, but can also be hurtful.1. Be honest with yourself. After a breakup, your feelings are usually confused. Be honest with yourself about what your situation truly is. Decide if the person you
- [Obsession Or True Love?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/obsession-or-true-love/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 67STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Obsession Or True Love?Previous My ex was my soulmate, the love of my life, are you telling me that's not true love?How to Recognize a PlayerThe title “player” usually refers to men, but women can be players too. A player is a master of
- [Communication Skills](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/communication-skills/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 69STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Communication SkillsPrevious Communicating effectively is largely about how well you express your feelings.Your delivery makes all the difference. Poor communication using drama and manipulation will destroy love and leave you lonely. With the right tools and a little practice, true love can blossom.Some of
- [Measurable Goals](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/measurable-goals/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 78STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Measurable GoalsPrevious You will create a vision, a series of measurable goals, and a personal development plan that will incorporate the whole life model and from this, you will see positive results.Below is the whole life model, which consists of 7 distinct areas that make
- [What I Did Wrong With My Ex](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/what-i-did-wrong-with-my-ex/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 62STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself What I Did Wrong With My ExPrevious This is your opportunity to fix the things you wish you could, or at least stop beating yourself up about them by preparing not to repeat them in the future. Keeping secrets does more damage than you
- [What if You Are a Rebound?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/what-if-you-are-a-rebound/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 66STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself What if You Are a Rebound?Previous 1. Protect your heart. If you are the first person to start dating someone who has recently ended a significant relationship, be aware that your relationship will probably be short-lived. “Recent” means within a few months, or up
- [Sexually Abused?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/sexually-abused/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 68STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Sexually Abused?Previous If you or a person you love was ever sexually abused, this video was made for you.I highly recommend this book, The Betrayal Bond, if you've endured any kind of abuse - Sexual, Physical, and/or Emotional. I promise it will help!Get on
- [Drama-Free Communication](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/drama-free-communication/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 71STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Drama-Free CommunicationPrevious The first step in creating a drama-free relationship is taking responsibility for your own behavior, thoughts, and feelings. Checklist for Good CommunicationDon’t blame others for what they do; you need to take responsibility for how you choose to respond.Never make demands. You
- [How to Actively Listen](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/how-to-actively-listen/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 72STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself How to Actively ListenPrevious The best way to make your partner feel cared about is to actively listen. 1) Extend an Invitation to Help You Learn About Yourself.Turn off the TV, computer, music, cell phone, and anything else that could interrupt or distract you.Tell the
- [Am I Emotionally Unavailable? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/am-i-emotionally-unavailable-quiz/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 73STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Am I Emotionally Unavailable? QuizPrevious CHECK ALL THAT APPLYCommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected course is
- [Emotional Intimacy](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/emotional-intimacy/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 74STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Emotional IntimacyPrevious So what is emotional intimacy? Real intimacy takes time to establish. It involves trust and mutually feeling safe to be vulnerable, allowing healthy self-disclosure without fearing being betrayed or misunderstood. It involves respect, tolerance, and always sharing how you feel—no secrets. In
- [Actions To Become More Emotionally Available](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/actions-to-become-more-emotionally-available/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 75STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Actions To Become More Emotionally AvailablePrevious To be emotionally available is to be willing to offer your whole self and to explore and accept your partner’s whole self. If your heart rate is starting to go up, and you’re feeling uncomfortable at just the
- [How To Argue Effectively](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/how-to-argue-effectively/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 76STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself How To Argue EffectivelyPrevious Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?Ask yourself that the next time you find yourself digging in your heels in an argument. What are you really trying to get? Too many of us get
- [Rules For A Healthy Argument](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/rules-for-a-healthy-argument/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 77STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Rules For A Healthy ArgumentPrevious 1. When you feel enraged, don't say anything!Take a few deep breaths and slowly count to five. It will give the more reasoning part of your brain time to kick in. Listen to it! If you can’t control your temper,
- [S-M-A-R-T Goals](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/s-m-a-r-t-goals/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 80STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself S-M-A-R-T GoalsPrevious Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time-bound. Using your list of incompletes and tolerations from the previous section, create SMART goals, taking great care not to overwhelm yourself.Below is the whole life model, which consists of 7 distinct areas that make up most people’s lives. When
- [Incompletes And Tolerations](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/incompletes-and-tolerations/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 79STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Incompletes And TolerationsPrevious What Are You Tolerating or Haven't Finished Yet?Tolerations – Anything that you “put up with” that drains your energy, creates confusion or gets in your way. Examples: A leaky faucet, noisy neighbor, cluttered home, or consistent heartburn when you eat.Incompletes – Is something
- [Books To Help You Heal & Grow](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/books-to-help-you-heal-grow/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 82STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Books To Help You Heal & GrowPrevious Some of my favorite reads to further your growth.Click the book's cover to go to it's Amazon page.View onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONCommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to
- [Help For Childhood Abuse & Other Trauma](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/help-for-childhood-abuse-other-trauma/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 83STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Help For Childhood Abuse & Other TraumaPrevious These are the best books I've read! They are VERY helpful to heal feeling broken. Click the book's cover to go to it's Amazon page.View onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONView onAMAZONCommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is
- [Is My Ex Worth Getting Back? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/is-my-ex-worth-getting-back-quiz/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 33STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS Is My Ex Worth Getting Back? QuizPrevious Take the QUIZ to determine if you should even want your ex back.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet,
- [Action Step: Ask Your Friends & Family](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/action-step-ask-your-friends-family/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 34STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS Action Step: Ask Your Friends & FamilyPrevious Ask For An Honest OpinionFrequently, our friends and family keep their true opinions about our relationships to themselves because they don't want to upset us or cause problems. But if you can take your ego out of it and promise not to get
- [Toxic Behavior](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/toxic-behavior/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 35STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS Toxic BehaviorPrevious Were you happy and pleasant to be around until you fell in love with your ex? Did your ex make you feel insecure? Were you defensive about your ex? Were you not really happy anymore?Relationships can be toxic without being physically abusive. Many people consider an abusive relationship
- [How Well Does My Ex Communicate? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/how-well-does-my-ex-communicate-quiz/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 36STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS How Well Does My Ex Communicate? QuizPrevious Take the QUIZ to determine if your ex is a good enough communicator.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet,
- [The Cycle Of Abuse](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/the-cycle-of-abuse/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 37STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS The Cycle Of AbusePrevious The first time you fought it seemed so out of left field... One of the hardest things to learn is that loving someone with all of your heart is not a good enough reason to stay. You have to love yourself most.Finding a love connection is
- [A True Partner?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/a-true-partner/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 38STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS A True Partner?Previous Relationships are supposed to be a true partnership with two complete individuals choosing to be with each other...and enjoy making each other happy.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have
- [Was Your Relationship Unbalanced?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/was-your-relationship-unbalanced/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 39STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS Was Your Relationship Unbalanced?Previous Both people need to be whole, and equally supportive of each other.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected course
- [NARCISSIST, SOCIOPATH, or BPD?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/narcissist-sociopath-or-bpd/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 40STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS NARCISSIST, SOCIOPATH, or BPD?Previous Narcissists, Sociopaths, and people with Borderline Personality Disorder cannot change...and are very dangerous to be in a relationship with.Narcissism is extreme self-absorption. A narcissist doesn’t feel empathy, so it is impossible for a narcissist to achieve real intimacy with anyone. Outward appearances are important to narcissists.
- [Is My Ex A Narcissist? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/is-my-ex-a-narcissist-quiz/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 41STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS Is My Ex A Narcissist? QuizPrevious Take the QUIZ to determine if your ex is a Narcissist or maybe just exhibits some Narcissistic behavior.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not
- [Signs Your Ex Is A Sociopath](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/signs-your-ex-is-a-sociopath/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 42STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS Signs Your Ex Is A SociopathPrevious There is a specific kind of toxic relationship that is hard to initially recognize. If you are unfortunate enough to fall in love with a sociopath, you'll most definitely begin to feel like you're becoming ill—and he or she is making you feel like
- [Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/borderline-personality-disorder-bpd/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 43STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)Previous Falling in love with someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) is like riding a roller coaster — for both of you. Those with BPD desperately fear abandonment and crave intimacy. They will seek out a deeply intimate connection. They usually lack boundaries and quickly idealize a
- [In Love With An Addict?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/in-love-with-an-addict/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 44STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS In Love With An Addict?Previous When you first meet an alcoholic, you may not see his or her drinking as a problem.Having a positive attitude and being a supportive partner is something I highly recommend—unless you’re dating an addict. When you first meet an alcoholic, you may not see his
- [Is My Ex An Addict? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/is-my-ex-an-addict-quiz/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 45STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS Is My Ex An Addict? QuizPrevious Take the QUIZ to determine if your ex is an Addict.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected
- [Am I Addicted To Love?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/am-i-addicted-to-love/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 46STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS Am I Addicted To Love?Previous A love addict has an insatiable desire to be loved. If you can answer yes to most or all of the questions below, you are a love addict.When you feel attracted to a person, do you immediately idealize that person to be your perfect partner,
- [STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan STEP 3 – Part 2 – BEST VERSION OF MYSELF5 SECTIONSStart ModuleChange is a process. Learning what you need to change is the first step to enforce healthy boundaries, make the right choices, and achieve your goals. You'll identify the things that trigger you, so you can consciously change your responses. You'll examine
- [Boundaries](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/boundaries/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 47STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself BoundariesPrevious You teach people how to treat you - whether you're aware of that or not.Having healthy boundaries means knowing your inner feelings, wants, needs, and limits, as well as fulfilling and enforcing them without hurting others. That means finding your true self and
- [Missing Boundaries Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/missing-boundaries-quiz/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 48STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Missing Boundaries QuizPrevious Take the QUIZ to determine if you need to strengthen, or loosen your Boundaries.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select
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- [How to Develop Healthy Boundaries](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/how-to-develop-healthy-boundaries/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 50STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself How to Develop Healthy BoundariesPrevious You can't blame someone else for violating your boundaries. It's up to you to enforce your boundaries. You have to teach people how to treat you.Begin by recognizing that you have a right to possess boundaries. All the people
- [Identify Your True Self](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/identify-your-true-self/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 51STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Identify Your True SelfPrevious YOUR TRUE SELF = Your inner thoughts and emotionsYOUR INNER THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS =feelings, beliefs, values, likes, dislikes, wants, needs, intuitions, and goalsBegin by recognizing that you have a right to possess boundaries. All the people in your life must
- [Self-Esteem](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/self-esteem/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 52STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Self-EsteemPrevious Love Yourself FirstI’m always amazed at how many of my clients are genuinely touched when I compliment their accomplishments, usually because nobody else ever has. For some, it’s even uncomfortable for them to hear me say “I’m proud of you” or to suggest
- [Writing Affirmations To Raise Your Self-Esteem](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/writing-affirmations-to-raise-your-self-esteem/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 53STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Writing Affirmations To Raise Your Self-EsteemPrevious The written word is a very powerful tool to change our brains. By writing and reading affirmations simultaneously, they are twice as effective at changing our thinking.1. Hand-write your affirmation ten to twenty times in succession on a piece
- [Feeling Abandoned](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/feeling-abandoned/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 54STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Feeling AbandonedPrevious Most people fear abandonment on some level, whether they recognize it or not.Like love addiction, the fear of abandonment also comes from childhood experiences. It develops not only as a result of obvious abandonment, such as a parent leaving or dying, but
- [Insecurity Is Created By You](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/insecurity-is-created-by-you/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 55STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Insecurity Is Created By YouPrevious Your thoughts will make you insecure or empowered. The choice is up to you!Symptoms of Abandonment IssuesReaching OutYou habitually reach out to the person you’re in a relationship with. You become needy for communication and usually end up doing
- [Someone New For You](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-part-two-best-version-of-myself/someone-new-for-you/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 56STEP 3 - Part Two - Best Version of Myself Someone New For YouPrevious Are your thoughts keeping you single?CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected course
- [STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan STEP 3 – MINDFULNESS19 SECTIONSStart ModuleStop wasting loving energy on your ex and focus your attention on taking great care of you. Nothing changes if nothing changes. Use this painful time to self-evaluate and decide you want better for yourself. Recognize exactly what you need to change and what would be best for
- [Journal To Feel Better](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-help-to-feel-better/journal-to-feel-better/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 14STEP 2 - HELP TO FEEL BETTER Journal To Feel BetterPrevious There is something magical about using a pen to write your thoughts down on paper...you release them.CommentsSTEP 2 - HELP TO FEEL BETTER Find Your Ex's Cons Journal To Feel Better Visualize To Feel Better, Not Worse The Breaking Point Getting Through The
- [Visualize To Feel Better, Not Worse](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-help-to-feel-better/visualize-to-feel-better-not-worse/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 15STEP 2 - HELP TO FEEL BETTER Visualize To Feel Better, Not WorsePrevious Thoughts are incredibly powerful. You can choose what you think, so chose to think positively and don't think about things that hurt you.CommentsSTEP 2 - HELP TO FEEL BETTER Find Your Ex's Cons Journal To Feel Better Visualize To Feel Better,
- [The Breaking Point](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-help-to-feel-better/the-breaking-point/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 16STEP 2 - HELP TO FEEL BETTER The Breaking PointPrevious Everyone has a breaking point and your ex may have already passed his or hers. But there are valuable lessons about expectations and emotional intimacy to gain.CommentsSTEP 2 - HELP TO FEEL BETTER Find Your Ex's Cons Journal To Feel Better Visualize To Feel
- [Getting Through The Weekends](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-help-to-feel-better/getting-through-the-weekends/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 17STEP 2 - HELP TO FEEL BETTER Getting Through The WeekendsPrevious Feeling lonely without your ex gets magnified on the weekends. But you can use your thoughts to make it easier. CommentsSTEP 2 - HELP TO FEEL BETTER Find Your Ex's Cons Journal To Feel Better Visualize To Feel Better, Not Worse The Breaking Point
- [More Than One Soulmate](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-help-to-feel-better/more-than-one-soulmate/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 18STEP 2 - HELP TO FEEL BETTER More Than One SoulmatePrevious When you lose your soul mate it feels like you will never have another one... CommentsSTEP 2 - HELP TO FEEL BETTER Find Your Ex's Cons Journal To Feel Better Visualize To Feel Better, Not Worse The Breaking Point Getting Through The Weekends
- [Redefine Your Identity](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-help-to-feel-better/redefine-your-identity/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 19STEP 2 - HELP TO FEEL BETTER Redefine Your IdentityPrevious You are no longer a significant other, you need to embrace being an empowered individual and create some new things for yourself. CommentsSTEP 2 - HELP TO FEEL BETTER Find Your Ex's Cons Journal To Feel Better Visualize To Feel Better, Not Worse The Breaking
- [STEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-part-two-grieving-your-broken-relationship/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan STEP 2 – Part 2 – GRIEVING YOUR BROKEN RELATIONSHIP8 SECTIONSStart ModuleEveryone handles grief at their own pace. But you cannot heal until you accept that it is over, at least for now. Your relationship as you knew it has died. For many people the feeling of rejection, knowing their ex could be
- [Denial](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-part-two-grieving-your-broken-relationship/denial/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 20STEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship DenialPrevious The first stage of grief is usually denial. Your brain is just beginning to process what your new reality is.CommentsSTEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship Denial Bargaining Anger Depression Acceptance Broken Promises Hope, Psychics, & Goals I'm Angry At
- [Anger](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-part-two-grieving-your-broken-relationship/anger/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 22STEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship AngerPrevious The anger stage will frequently come in spurts among the other stages.CommentsSTEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship Denial Bargaining Anger Depression Acceptance Broken Promises Hope, Psychics, & Goals I'm Angry At My ExAction steps for GriefChannel Your Anger To
- [Bargaining](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-part-two-grieving-your-broken-relationship/bargaining/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 21STEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship BargainingPrevious Bargaining typically coincides with part of the denial stage, as you are having trouble accepting that it's over. CommentsSTEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship Denial Bargaining Anger Depression Acceptance Broken Promises Hope, Psychics, & Goals I'm Angry At My
- [Depression](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-part-two-grieving-your-broken-relationship/depression/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 23STEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship DepressionPrevious Depression is usually the final stage before you get to acceptance. Be careful that you don't stay in depression for years!CommentsSTEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship Denial Bargaining Anger Depression Acceptance Broken Promises Hope, Psychics, & Goals I'm Angry
- [Acceptance](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-part-two-grieving-your-broken-relationship/acceptance/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 24STEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship AcceptancePrevious The acceptance stage is achieved when you have truly stopped believing you will get your ex back.CommentsSTEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship Denial Bargaining Anger Depression Acceptance Broken Promises Hope, Psychics, & Goals I'm Angry At My ExAction steps
- [Broken Promises](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-part-two-grieving-your-broken-relationship/broken-promises/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 25STEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship Broken PromisesPrevious Did your ex promise you forever or something similar that is now making you angry?CommentsSTEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship Denial Bargaining Anger Depression Acceptance Broken Promises Hope, Psychics, & Goals I'm Angry At My ExAction steps for
- [Hope, Psychics, & Goals](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-part-two-grieving-your-broken-relationship/hope-psychics-goals/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 26STEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship Hope, Psychics, & GoalsPrevious Hope can be destructive if you're hoping for something you can't control. Like hoping to get your ex back.CommentsSTEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship Denial Bargaining Anger Depression Acceptance Broken Promises Hope, Psychics, & Goals I'm
- [I'm Angry At My Ex](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-part-two-grieving-your-broken-relationship/im-angry-at-my-ex/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 27STEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship I’m Angry At My ExPrevious Feeling rejected by the person you love can easily break that thin line to become hate.CommentsSTEP 2 - Part Two - Grieving Your Broken Relationship Denial Bargaining Anger Depression Acceptance Broken Promises Hope, Psychics, & Goals I'm Angry At
- [Scrutinize Your Ex](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/scrutinize-your-ex/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 28STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS Scrutinize Your ExPrevious Should I even want my ex back? Knock your ex off that pedestal and take an honest look at how good (or bad) your relationship actually was.I have to tell you that in all of my years coaching people through painful breakups, it has been very seldom
- [Is Your Ex Broken?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/is-your-ex-broken/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 29STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS Is Your Ex Broken?Previous Did your ex have childhood trauma? Such as having lost a parent, suffered abuse, and/or been in toxic relationships? CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select
- [It's Complicated](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/its-complicated/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 30STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS It’s ComplicatedPrevious All your relationships have one thing in common — YOU.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected course is invalid. Please fix
- [The Moment That Changed My Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/the-moment-that-changed-my-relationship/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 31STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS The Moment That Changed My RelationshipPrevious Our relationship was amazing until....CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected course is invalid. Please fix this
- [It's Not All Your Fault](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-3-mindfulness/its-not-all-your-fault/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 32STEP 3 - MINDFULNESS It’s Not All Your FaultPrevious It always takes two to make a relationship last.Assigning proper blame is essential in starting to feel better. CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select
- [STEP 1 – NO CONTACT](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-1-no-contact/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan STEP 1 – NO CONTACT12 SectionsStart ModuleOut of sight, out of mind is definitely how you should handle your ex — ignorance is bliss. If you are strong and keep your thoughts in the present instead of running the mental highlight reel of all your good times together you will start to feel
- [STEP 2 - HELP TO FEEL BETTER](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-help-to-feel-better/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan STEP 2 – HELP TO FEEL BETTER7 SECTIONSStart ModuleI truly understand how abandoned you feel; how devastating the future now seems, and how hard it is to get through each day, to eat or sleep. You have to stop allowing your thoughts to be your own worst enemy and use them productively.We all
- [Why You Can't We Be Friends](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-1-no-contact/why-you-cant-we-be-friends/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 1STEP 1 - NO CONTACT Why You Can’t We Be FriendsPrevious If you are completely honest with yourself, I think you know that you do not want to be friends with your ex. What you want is to keep him or her in your life because you hope to get back together. The thought
- [Stop Cyberstalking Your Ex](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-1-no-contact/stop-cyberstalking-your-ex/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 2STEP 1 - NO CONTACT Stop Cyberstalking Your ExPrevious What you don't know can't hurt you! Ignorance is bliss when you're trying to move forward. Focus on things that you can control.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course.
- [Logistics Of Social Media](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-1-no-contact/logistics-of-social-media/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 3STEP 1 - NO CONTACT Logistics Of Social MediaPrevious Should I unfriend my ex? Unfollow? What about all my ex's friends?CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected
- [Am I Giving Away My Power? Quiz](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-1-no-contact/am-i-giving-away-my-power-quiz/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 4STEP 1 - NO CONTACT Am I Giving Away My Power? QuizPrevious Take the QUIZ to determine if you're giving away your power.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or
- [My Ex Still Has My Stuff](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-1-no-contact/my-ex-still-has-my-stuff/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 5STEP 1 - NO CONTACT My Ex Still Has My StuffPrevious Get your stuff back, but don't use it to manipulate the situation.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or
- [But, We're Co-Parenting...](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-1-no-contact/but-were-co-parenting/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 6STEP 1 - NO CONTACT But, We’re Co-Parenting…Previous Your kid or kids should not be a pawn in your divorce or separation. CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or
- [Actions For No Contact](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-1-no-contact/actions-for-no-contact/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 7STEP 1 - NO CONTACT Actions For No ContactPrevious Actionable tips to help you to start letting go.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected course is invalid.
- [Find Your Ex's Cons](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-2-help-to-feel-better/find-your-exs-cons/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 13STEP 2 - HELP TO FEEL BETTER Find Your Ex’s ConsPrevious Your perception creates your reality, so you need to change your perception about your ex. ACTION STEP: Forget the pros; they are irrelevant to you now. Handwrite your list on a piece of paper or in your journal, your brain processes information better when
- [Sex With My Ex?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-1-no-contact/sex-with-my-ex/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 9STEP 1 - NO CONTACT Sex With My Ex?Previous Be careful what you wish for. Think about the consequences BEFORE you make things worse for yourself.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your
- [My Ex Contacted Me!](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-1-no-contact/my-ex-contacted-me/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Step 8STEP 1 - NO CONTACT My Ex Contacted Me!Previous I know it's exciting to hear from your ex. Take a deep breath. That doesn't mean you're getting back together. Your ex is grieving the end of the relationship too. But he or she was the one who chose this. Do not make it easier
- [My Ex Blocked Me](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-1-no-contact/my-ex-blocked-me/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 10STEP 1 - NO CONTACT My Ex Blocked MePrevious Take a deep breath, it's a good thing your ex blocked you.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either not select your course yet, or your selected
- [Emotional Blackmail](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-1-no-contact/emotional-blackmail/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 12STEP 1 - NO CONTACT Emotional BlackmailPrevious If you're feeling desperate and don't want to go on without your ex, I truly understand. But you have to love yourself most. Please wait 90 days and see how you feel then. I promise you, life is still worth living!!!CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element
- [My Ex Moved On Already!](https://www.donnabarnes.com/course/breakup-recovery-action-plan/step-1-no-contact/my-ex-moved-on-already/) - Breakup Recovery Action Plan Section 11STEP 1 - NO CONTACT My Ex Moved On Already!Previous Moving on immediately from one relationship to another is a huge red flag that you'll never truly be happy.CommentsUnconfigured ElementThe Lesson and Module List element is designed to list a collection of all the modules, chapters and/or lessons in selected course. You have either

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- [Unhappy](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/unhappy/)
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- [Change mind](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/change-mind/)
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- [Why am I still single?](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/why-am-i-still-single/)
- [Verbal Abuse](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/verbal-abuse/)
- [Criticize](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/criticize/)
- [Name Calling](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/name-calling/)
- [No sense of humor](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/no-sense-of-humor/)
- [Hurt Feelings](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/hurt-feelings/)
- [Emotional Abuse](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/emotional-abuse/)
- [Shaming](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/shaming/)
- [Arguing](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/arguing/)
- [One night stand](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/one-night-stand/)
- [Hook Up](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/hook-up/)
- [third date rule](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/third-date-rule/)
- [Make Love](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/make-love/)
- [Stand up for yourself](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/stand-up-for-yourself/)
- [Get a date](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/get-a-date/)
- [Flirt](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/flirt/)
- [Eye Contact](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/eye-contact/)
- [First Date](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/first-date/) - Tips to get the first date and help you make a great first impression. Stop waving red flags. Turn a first date into a second and third date, find a keeper.
- [Obligated for sex](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/obligated-for-sex/)
- [Physical Abuse](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/physical-abuse/)
- [Domestic Violence](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/domestic-violence/)
- [Abusive Relationship](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/abusive/) - Recognize the signs of an abusive relationship and end the cycle of abuse. Get out of a toxic, bad relationship safely and get help to start over.
- [Addiction](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/addiction/)
- [Positive Thinking](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/positive-thinking/)
- [Understand Women](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/understand-women/)
- [Get the girl](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/get-the-girl/)
- [Red Flags](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/red-flags/)
- [Guy Code](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/guy-code/)
- [Face Fears](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/face-fears/)
- [Texting](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/texting/)
- [Get laid](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/get-laid/)
- [Have sex](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/have-sex/)
- [Unattractive](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/unattractive/)
- [Short](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/short/)
- [What to say](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/what-to-say/)
- [Do's and Don'ts](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/dos-and-donts/)
- [Bedroom fun](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/bedroom-fun/)
- [Sexually Active](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/sexually-active/)
- [Ask her out](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/ask-her-out/)
- [Friend Zone](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/friend-zone/)
- [Ask about past lovers](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/ask-about-past-lovers/)
- [Dating APP](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/dating-app/)
- [Meet online](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/meet-online/)
- [How to Meet Someone](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/how-to-meet-someone/)
- [Best online photos](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/best-online-photos/)
- [Dating website](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/dating-website/)
- [Online profile](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/online-profile/)
- [Adultery](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/adultery/)
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- [Preconceived Ideas](https://www.donnabarnes.com/blog/tag/preconceived-ideas/)

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