Unhappily Engaged?

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Getting engaged can be really exciting. Most girls dream about that moment for a long time. So when he or she got down on one knee and asked that important question maybe you only said yes because you thought you were supposed to. Maybe you were put on the spot and didn’t want to embarrass him/her. However it happened, if you now find yourself unhappy and getting married is not what you truly want, you owe it to yourself and everyone else involved to be honest.

I had an engaged client who confided in me that she wasn’t happy about getting married. They hadn’t had sex in a while and she felt like they were only friends, nothing more. I asked why she was still planning on going through with it. She said her parents had already spent a lot of money and she didn’t want to disappoint them. I encouraged her to tell her parents what she had just told me.

Your parents want you to be happy above all else. If they’re spending money and helping you plan your wedding that’s because they think that’s what you want. If that’s not what you truly want I promise you your parents would rather you call it off than marry to the wrong person.

That’s exactly what happened for my client. A month before the planned wedding she told her parents she wasn’t happy and didn’t think he was the right man for her. They immediately called it off. Within that year she met the true love of her life and married him two years later in the beautiful dress she had originally bought and never wore. They now have two wonderful children and she’s very happy.

You have to make yourself happy before you can make anyone else happy. If you are engaged and doubtful about going through with it, stop it now. Far too many people have told me that they knew on their wedding day that they were making the biggest mistake, but went through with it anyway. Then they ended up divorced, frequently after having kids. Please don’t let that be you!

Also, watch How to Know Who is RIGHT For You

Read more about healthy communication in my book Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships