How to Be a Desirable Nice Guy

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Are you a nice guy who feels like you always finish last? Tired of getting stuck in the “friend zone”? Frustrated that every girl wants prince charming?

Well, you can be prince charming; and also get any girl you want if you hold strong boundaries and don’t act needy. Neediness is when you don’t take care of your own needs, and crave constant attention and validation from your partner. It’s also called codependence. If you feel needy in relationships I highly recommend you read Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Care for Yourself by Melody Beattie.

If you want a woman to develop desire for you, you have to make her respect you. Confidence is very attractive. The more you calmly stand up for yourself and use boundaries to prevent bad behavior, or drama, the more confident you will become.

Tips to Become Desirable

  • Hold strong boundaries. You teach people how to treat you.
  • Take care of your own needs first.
  • Command respect.
  • Don’t engage in drama or arguments.
  • Be a very nice guy. Thoughtful, sensitive, and caring without being a pushover.

For Help With Boundaries


My book Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships: Recipes for Healthy Choices







Boundaries and Relationships: Knowing, Protecting and Enjoying the Self by Charles Whitfield